Challenges of adulthood

What the hell was I thinking?

When I was a young, I was small for my age. I was always the smallest or one of the small kids in my elementary school classes, but I was a smart kid. I read a lot. I kept up with my homework. I did my chores, I listened to my parents and my elders and minded “my p’s and q’s.”

Somehow in my crazy little brain, I couldn’t wait to be adult. I couldn’t wait to grow up and be on my own. I dreamed of having my own apartment, my own car, doing my own thing. I dreamed of being my own timekeeper and the master of my house.

I wonder sometimes what the hell I was thinking. I knew nothing about life’s little challenges:

  • Work. Despite my parent’s warnings, I thought money “grew on trees.” I didn’t realize that I had to get up even on the days I wanted to roll over in bed. I didn’t realize that when I grew tired of my life’s work, I couldn’t just snap my fingers and become the starting shortstop for the New York Yankees.
  • Bills. You need to pay bills that you never thought about when you were a kid. I went to the store yesterday and was shocked to see see my grocery bill. I spent $300 and came home with nothing. In that moment, I realized that I had become my parents, commenting on the rising costs of everyday things.
  • Taxes. You need to pay taxes that never seem to go away.
  • Having to worry about once silly things like health and exercise.
  • The speed of time.
  • The speed of aches and pains.

I thought I was prepared for adulthood, but no one really is. What in the heck was I thinking? If I pinch myself, will I wake myself up from this dream and still be 13-years-old? (Oh no, that might be a scarier dream!)

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  1. Oh my. Isn’t the grass always greener on the other side of the street? Which is more challenging—being the kid, or being the adult? I was never the smart kid, and couldn’t possibly imagine how an adult could support a family and a whole house—and I didn’t even know about the little incidentals, like taxes, insurance, and dental costs for the kids. Such thoughts were scary in the mind of a child with a $.25 week allowance! Sigh. I guess we all come into life with our own particular life-long learning agenda to work through! PS: I’m a big kid now and living happily ever after—still alive to tell the tale!

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  2. Perfectly dissected and accurately analyzed! Only now can we shake our heads at the young’uns who state that they can’t wait until they’re all grown up and can do what they want, when the want! You’re right – what the hell were we thinking?

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  3. There’s a lot of irony in life isn’t there Brian? Humans tend to believe that being somewhere else, having something different, magically growing or getting younger again will make life better/easier/more fun. Then reality comes along and we have to accept for the 10th or 100th time that their are challenges no matter what stage of life we are in 🙂

    The bills thing though as an adult- so very unfair 😉

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  4. You mean this isn’t possible for you? …”I couldn’t just snap my fingers and become the starting shortstop for the New York Yankees.” Bummer. Harsh realities of ‘adulting’! 😎
    And I’m with you about grocery costs. $300 and you’re wondering where the additional bags are!

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    1. I read that story about the guy going back to play college baseball and it sounded wonderful for two full minutes. And then I thought about the morning after — the morning after working out with a bunch of 18, 19, 20 year olds. I felt sore just thinking about it. So, yea, no snapping my fingers here! What in the hell was I thinking!!!

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  5. I certainly wouldn’t want to be 13 again. I’m not too sure I’d want to relive my childhood … but could I live a different one – but I guess that’s really the same problem, isn’t it. Wishing things were different! But I do agree, we all want to be grown up, but once you get there life isn’t all wonderful and we have to learn to live with the realities. Ok now I’ve depressed myself and there’s not even any chocolate in the house to make me feel better 🥺😥

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  6. I was also always the smallest, thinnest, quietest and weediest girl in my school. The other children let me know that, too. I was always last to be picked for sports teams, usually accompanied by cries of, “Oh, miss, do we have to have h-e-r.”

    I don’t think I ever thought much about growing up at that time, but then I was dealing with an awful lot of trauma at that time. I could barely manage to think about the next day, let alone my future as an adult.

    However, I agree that growing up isn’t all it’s cracked up to be with its constant financial worries, work, families, shopping, health and welfare, as you said, and caring for children. Would I turn the clock back if I could? I think not, other than, perhaps, to be a few years younger with more strength and energy.

    Please, forgive me for my absence from your blog recently, Brian. What with being in London last weekend and recovering from the exhaustion of it all (well worth it, though) and then, yesterday, when my laptop decided to give up altogether, losing all my tabs that were open. Each tab had a different blog post ready to read, so I lost an awful lot of other people’s work. I’m having to start today and move forwards from there. Luckily, I was able to borrow my neighbour’s son’s spare laptop for a couple of days until mine can be [hopefully] fixed. Fingers crossed – it’s going to cost me a fortune anyway! The joys of being an adult, eh! 🙄

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    1. Yes, the joys of being an adult! Ha, ha. Good luck with the laptop. Mine is starting to go. I’ll need to replace it soon. I’m not looking forward to it, but it’s all part of being an adult. Yes, I wouldn’t want to go back to childhood either. Too many memories. Thanks for reading Ellie.

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  7. Seems we humans are always adjusting to life, as it is a fluid animal which on many occasions is far outside our control. If I could take my acquired wisdom with me Brian, I might like to head back in time…but have no interest in reliving those youthful years without my current life experience. Insanity is indeed doing the same thing over again expecting different results!


  8. Yesterday my wife and I helped our grandson apply for his first apartment. Lots of questions, “Do I have to pay that?” “Do they really need to know that?” “Is this a scam?” etc. Final he pressed “finished” on the on-line application and said something like, “That’s hard stuff, but I guess that means I’m an adult.”
    My reply, “Yup, welcome to adulthood.”

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    1. Ha, ha, that’s great. Did you tell him: Just wait until you have to apply for financing for a car, house, etc., etc. Oh, to be young. Good for him though for tackling it and good for you for helping him out. I still get scared off by that kind of stuff. And I’m supposedly an adult. The key word there being Supposedly.

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      1. I did mention he has other fun to look forward to. He starts a new job in June so I told him that the next grandpa lesson will be on taxes and 401Ks … 😉


      2. Taxes are no fun, but you’re a great grandpa teaching him about the benefit of 401(k)s. I tell my kids that no matter what they should always meet the match, otherwise they’re throwing $$$ away. Can be hard, though, for a young person without a lot of money and lots of bills.

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  9. It’s very funny how our perspectives change as a grown up. It’s funny as a grown up I so miss the ability to nap and have summers off. Life sure is funny!

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  10. I used to think that school was a chore, but now I always look back and reminisce the worry-free days. I guess there’s a lesson to come out of that: that I’d someday look back to today and reminisce something I took for granted. So I make sure to treasure even the mundane things, because I might not have them in the future!

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  11. I think we all become pur parents whether we like it or not. I especially wish work was optional but then again there are the bills and taxes 🙂 But thinking about it I really don’t want to be a teenager again or a child. I agree with you adult life isn’t as easy as we thought it was. I guess our patents left out many details

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