The woman looked upset. I tried to cheer her up. While I went about my job, I commented on how the flurries outside and the Christmas song on the loudspeaker made me feel festive. She wasn’t buying it. She kept her stone face. Before leaving though she thanked me for trying to bring a little sunlight into her gray day.

My consulting work slowed-down from Thanksgiving to Christmas so I took a part-time job at a large local department store. I worked as a cashier and customer service representative. It wasn’t my favorite task. However, I thought the few dollars earned would come in handy over the holiday season. I knew I would learn a few things from the experience. I was frankly surprised by how much.
Here’s what I learned working retail:
- Money, money, money. Let’s cut to the chase: Greed by both the corporate parent and customers. The company put a good amount of pressure on cashiers to promote its credit card. The manager on duty would regularly give me updates on my progress pushing the cards. While I understood the benefits, I still found the pressure unseemly and unethical. In some situations, it was in the customer’s best interests. They had the opportunity to save a hundreds dollars on large purchases. In other situations, I found the idea of the credit card to be outrageous. I’m not a big fan of credit cards. It’s how people often get themselves into trouble. So, it felt wrong with me. Of course, I found customers’ behavior out of line too. I saw many customers wanting expensive items for, well, nothing. Life doesn’t work that way.
- Scams on top of scams. It was sad to see how scammers and swindlers tried to scam and steal merchandise and money from the store. Customers would cut off security tags and try to sneak out with merchandise. You had to be on your guard. My eyes were definitely opened to the dark side of the world.

- The importance of patience & empathy. When faced with long lines and pressure, understanding different perspectives, and showing compassion are incredibly important.
- There lots of sad people. I was reminded that everyone you meet is facing a battle you know nothing about. One person is battling Cancer. Another was recently laid off. A third misses a parent or spouse who recently passed away. It reminded me once again of the simple advice: Treat people with respect and kindness.
- No matter the role, hard work, asking questions, and being on time make a big difference. I may have been a newbie in the retail role. However, I’m proud of the resilience, kindness, and strong sense of responsibility that I brought to the job.
I can’t say I want to go back to retail anytime soon. In the short term, though, it was an interesting experience. Now . . . how can I help you? Did you find everything you were looking for?
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I love how you live with empathy, compassion and humility in all the roles you do, Brian. I’ve never had the experience of working in retail but I can see how it is good training in not just customer service but hard work and life itself. I can see how you meet people from all walks of life indeed. 🙏
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“I love how you live with empathy, compassion and humility in all the roles you do.” Oh wow, what a nice thing to say Ab. Too nice. I’m not sure how accurate I am but I try live that way.
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Five things I learned working in retail:
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Ha, ha, I’m not too far away from you. It was not my favorite job in the world. It won’t even rank as the second favorite. A tough tough job!
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What great lessons, Brian! Dr. Zeus worked in retail selling computers as a young teen and helped customers find the best fit for their needs, rather than sell the most expensive model. Ultimately, they referred friends to *him* and, at age 15 as a part-timer, he was top 3 in sales for the state. Point being, I think there’s also something to be said about trying to understand the customer’s needs.
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Customer Needs — so important. Too many people skip right over it.
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There are lessons to be learned in every area of our lives. Thanks for your words today and always.
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You are right so many lessons. Always good to step a foot in someone else’s shoes.
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I worked retail in high school and college. Not a fan. And this was the 80s….
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Yea, I’m with you. Not a big fan. Glad it was short-lived.
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Having worked briefly in retail, I know all of what you say is true.
I worked in a clothing store, and was told to do “snap-back”. I asked what that was, but no one took time to explain anything, training was nonexistent. I’d straighten shelves and racks, refold clothes, whenever there wasn’t a line at the till, hoping I was doing what I was supposed to. Near the end of my time there, someone finally told me what “snap-back” was. I had already been doing it – straightening shelves and racks, refolding clothes… The store I worked in had terrible management, and it closed.
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Oh yea, the management was really strange. Some good ones and then some really bad ones. I felt bad for them — overworked and some less than enthusiastic people working for them, but the training was minimal and they weren’t very helpful. I found one to be really odd. She would hold up the line just lecture me on the card promotion. I just felt it was a bad customer service message.
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I agree with everything you wrote. Two things I learned during my work years – Too many people think their job isn’t important and EVERY job is important. 🤦♀️
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The smallest things really do make a difference. Thanks.
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Yes, I found everything I was looking for. Another lovely post from one of my favorite writers! Thank you, Brian. 💝
This is so very true:
“I was reminded that everyone you meet is facing a battle you know nothing about.”
A great reminder for those working in stressful situations, especially public facing roles. Super hard.
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Seems like a lot of battles lately!! Or is it just me noticing. Ha. ha.
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Not just you! 😉
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Hang in there friend!
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Xo! 🥰
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I love these observations, Brian. Hard work, being on time, and asking questions – I can’t imagine anyone better than you in any role. But I love that you brought yourself fully to the job and I imagine made a lot of people’s days!
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“But I love that you brought yourself fully to the job and I imagine made a lot of people’s days!” Oh thank you Wynne. That’s so nice of you. But I’m not sure I was all that great. Ha, ha. Hopefully I wasn’t “the guy” in the aisle that everyone tried to avoid. Ha, ha.
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Thanks for sharing an insight in to working in retail! I’m sure a lot of shoppers had a better experience because of you! ❤️
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Kind of you Mary. I was “okay.” I’m sure a lot of folks better than me. The best I can say, I tried. Thanks though.
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Love this so much. We are definitely placed where we are needed I feel. You may have indeed made a difference in someone’s life even just for that moment or day. You in turn learned all of those lessons (and shared with us).
I worked in retail during high school and then 21 years as a customer service manager and trainer for GEICO. Serving the public is definitely a skill!!
Love this piece! Hope you had a great weekend! ❤️
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A tough job. Not sure I’m cut out for it. Ha, ha.
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I loved the timing of this piece and to know you worked in retail recently. I just started working in a little neighborhood market part-time a couple of weeks ago. I could relate to most everything you mention.
I’ve been surprised how physically tiring it is for me. My shifts are only six hours long and I come home exhausted. It’s been great in a lot of ways but I have had a few times of getting my ego wounded when someone was patronizing, for instance the other day a guy’s bill came to 18.65 and he commented on that being a significant year in history and then quizzed me on why that was so. I said it was when slavery ended and he seemed surprised I knew and then said it was the end of the civil war but that I was right too.
Anyway, thanks for sharing, Brian.
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Yea, I mainly worked a few hours each day too. It was actually a stretch when I had to work longer. It’s one thing to work a normal day, but throw in customers and it’s something altogether different. You really do get all kinds. Some nice and some, well, let’s just crazy. And hang in there with the ego getting wounded. Your customer sounded like a jerk. Let’s quiz him on a few dates!!! Everyone comes in with their own agenda. And I was just trying to help them out and move them along. I don’t really have the personality for it. Oh, I’m fine externally, but I definitely wouldn’t survive in the job long-term. Hang in there!!!!
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Thanks Brian. I’m hoping it won’t be long term for me either.
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It’s such a tough job. At least for me it was. Ha, ha.
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me too!
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My husband and I owned a retail Watch store (watch World) for many, many years. We sold it, and 46 years later, it still exists in a suburb of Buffalo, NY – Oh, the stories we could tell! It’s an incredible insight into human nature to work retail – great blog – V
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So true Vickie. Insight into man’s best and worst behavior!!!!
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