(A version of this story first appeared on June 21, 2023 on The Heart of The Matter.)
My sons were both excited, my daughter a bit less, but she was being a good sport. They wanted to see the waterfalls. Our kids were all relatively young and we had billed up the falls and our trip to the mountains for weeks.
We were visiting the Shenandoah National Park in North Central Virginia. We were going to make the short hike down the Dark Hollow Falls, a mile and a half out-and-back hike that was listed in the trail book as a “moderate” hike. What the hike lacks in length, it makes up in steepness. The hike is rocky in spots and the return climb can be very challenging.
“Now if we hike down, we’re going to have to hike back up,” I warned the kids. “It’s going to be a long walk, I just need to know that you’re all in, that you’re going to be up for walking back up the mountain.”
I knew I would be carrying the youngest. Oh, I knew he’d talk a good game and he would start strong, but his legs were tiny and there was no way he’d walk the entire distance on his own. The other two were the outliers. I didn’t want to have to worry about carrying them.
When I had mentioned they could use my hiking poles, they assumed that the poles were somehow magic, and, of course, were on board. When they all agreed, I told them, “Okay, we can do this” more to encourage myself than the three of them.

Heigh-Ho, heigh-Ho, Off the Trail We Go!
On our walk down, the hike seemed to take forever, what supposedly was going to take 75 minutes for the entire hike, took us well over two hours, just to get to the bottom of the trail. Fortunately, the falls were as beautiful as previous visits. The kids were amazed looking at the 70-foot cascading waterfall, spilling out over the rocky ledge and scarfed down snacks and water my wife had remembered to bring. We stuck around for a while, mainly because we knew what came next, but I could see that it was getting late in the afternoon and we needed to start back up.
Right on cue, the kids started to get tired. I reminded them of our deal, but they didn’t really care about the “stinking deal” now, they were tired. And the magic poles weren’t so magical anymore.
I would walk for twenty yards and then magically spy a deer to keep their interest. “Did you see him? He’s the prettiest deer I’ve ever seen. I think he’s a ten pointer,” I would whisper. “You gotta be real quiet. Let’s walk a little more and see if we can see him again.” That worked for awhile, until they started to catch onto daddy’s trick.
“Dad, there’s no deer. You’re teasing us.”
“No, no, I swear I saw a deer. I wonder if it’s related to Bambi?”

Shenandoah National Park
All Aboard, No Stops, Direct Trip To The Top!
Finally I knew we had to be getting close to the top of the mountain. I’m not sure where I got it from, but I collected my last bit of stamina, I had the youngest in my backpack-style carrier and told him to hang on tight, and somehow managed to scoop up the other two, first one on my right arm, and then the other with the left.
My wife, trailing the three of us, yelled at me to be careful. I couldn’t hear her well over the kids giggling. They couldn’t stop laughing, they were getting a free ride up the hill. My wife was worried about me falling and our crazy kids hurting themselves, but I think she was really yelling at me to wait up and give her a ride too.
I’m sure we were an odd sight, but somehow we made it to the top of the mountain. My arms and back cried out in glee. Yes, resiliency at its finest. And a bit of craziness too!
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A great “Dad” story! Well done! 😊
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You get to a certain point where you do whatever it takes to get everyone to the car. Without a temper tantrum or an “Are we there yet.” Ha, ha.
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A fine family memory! 🙏🏻☺️
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They’re all bigger than me now. No way am I carrying them.
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A good idea if your back is like mine, Brian!
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Memories of times together as a family are the best.
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Good memories. I know I couldn’t carry them now. They would be carrying me!!!!
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lol I can imagine that.
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Just a crazy site Kathy. Pure craziness.
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There’s something about reaching the end of our own strength that makes grace easier to recognize. As long as we still have a little gas in the tank, we tend to congratulate the engine. But when the gauge is sitting squarely on empty and somehow we are still moving, we begin looking elsewhere for the explanation.
It makes me think of God’s words to Paul: “My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness” (2 Corinthians 12:9). I used to think that meant God simply gives us enough strength to keep going. But sometimes His grace looks more like being carried when our own legs have officially resigned from the journey.
And perhaps that is one of the quieter lessons of faith: God does not always replenish our strength before the climb. Sometimes He lets us discover His strength during it. We arrive at the top wondering how on earth we made it—and heaven has been quietly answering that question all along.
Although I must admit, three children at once may have been grace with a generous side helping of adrenaline.
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Grace is a nice way of putting it. My wife preferred to call it . . .”stupidity.” Ha, ha. Okay, she was nicer than that, but she was certain that all four of us were going to end up on the ground with broken bones and bloody bruises. Somehow we got to the top!
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Love this story, Brian! Resiliency at its finest for sure. I’ve noticed for my kids that even if I carry them a short way, it gives them energy for the rest. Loved the way you scooped them all up – what a dad!!
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I seriously don’t know how I did it. They were little but it was still a crazy move. My wife was actually mad at me. All she saw in her mind was me dropping the three of them and having to help me up the rest of the way. Ha, ha.
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I like your approach with the fake deer. I’d probably have tried a different tactic on my kids, telling them I’d spotted a bear following us, so we’d better make haste. “I’d love to carry you, son, but that’ll slow us down. I don’t know about you, but I don’t have ‘Get Eaten by a Bear’ on my bingo card today, so let’s skedaddle!”
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Oh I should have thought of that. Bear instead of Deer. Smart move Mark! “Run Dad. Run!” Ha, ha.
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⭐️🤓⛰️
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😎😎😎😎
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I love this story! I could feel your exhaustion hiking up those steps, with your three kids, but as with any magical nature hike, it is so worth it – you survived and now have a lovely and humorous story to share and a lifetime of memories that’ll be passed down to your grandkids one day!
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The things we do as a parents!!! The crazy things. Ha, ha.
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These memories pave the paths for all future hikes through life! Love this my friend!
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When my back hurts on a cold night . . . I remember those memories. Ha, ha.
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Haha! I wish your wife would have taken a photo of you carrying all three. The things we do as parents when there is no other choice. I also appreciated the deer trick. There is so much pyschology combined with a healthy dose of deception in the parenting business.
My wife tells a story about how her Mom took the three kids on 1-2 day trip to see the Grand Canyon. My wife, acting every part of the teenager that she was, said, “It’s just a big hole in the ground.” My mother-in-law was not happy. They could laugh about it together years later.
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“There is so much pyschology combined with a healthy dose of deception in the parenting business.” True words Pete. We do what we can in teh moment. Ha, ha. The toughest job you’ll ever love!
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Miracle on the mountain! I Loved that you used every tool in your tool belt and improv-ed the rest. That’s the definition of parenthood in a nutshell.
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Parental improv!! I need to write a book on the subject now. Ha, ha. Whatever gets us to the top of the mountain. Ha, ha.
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yes, that would be a great title.
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You’re a great dad. What a wonderful memory.
Whenever I go hiking, I’m not as excited for the downhill because that ultimately means uphill on the way back!
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I’m not sure about being a great dad. I think it was just desperation! Ha, ha. The end had to be near. Now if I had carried them for a short while and didn’t get to the end, I’m not sure what I would’ve done. Ha, ha. I probably would’ve definitely scared away any deer still in the woods. Ha, ha.
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GREAT STORY!!!!!
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Oh thank you Vickie. It was fun to come back to this one. I’ve been running a bit lately and pulled that one from the archive. It’s one of my favorites because of the memories.
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You’re a great dad, Brian. And what will really be fun is when your kids have children, and they will use the deer trick and all-aboard strategy too. ☺️They want to repeat the fun times they had with you and your wife growing up. That is such a great memory.
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Great dad, no way. I was just tired and wanted to get to the car and air conditioning!!! I was losing it as much as the kids were. Ha, ha. Thank goodness we were close to the top of the hill/mountain!
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Nah, I don’t believe it, haha. You gave them a memory of beautiful waterfalls, and another memorable family day. Yay! 😎
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Thank you Melanie. Yes, love memories like those. So beautiful.
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Carrying all three children – amazing! You should get the gold star for being the best of the best Dad!
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Gold Star? More like a Big L on my forehead for doing something silly. Ha, ha. In reality, I was just trying to get to the finish line and that seemed to be the quickest way possible. My back at the time and now obviously didn’t like the idea of carrying them either. Ha, ha.
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That’s a great story for the ages. Do your kids remember?
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We made several trips to Shenandoah National Park over the years. I’m not sure they remember this trip. They were pretty young, but they remember others.There was a trip with a broken down car and a bear that seems to come up a lot. Ha, ha.
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I bet they remember the bear!
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Awww! Good job, Dad! Reminds me of my dad who was always great about taking my brother and me hiking. 🥰
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I needed to keep them interested in hiking — otherwise, I knew I would lose them forever from going again in the future. Ha ha. I can just imagine the response: “hiking again Dad. Oh nooooo.”
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