The lessons I’ve learned from ‘opening a vein’

(A version of this story ran in February 2016.)

When I first started writing this blog in 2015, I learned that it was different from anything else I had tried in the past. I jotted down a few of those lessons in 2016 and they still hold true today. Let me know what you think.

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When I first got the idea for this blog and launched this site in September 2015, I was looking for a way to release some of my creative energy and to get back into the habit of writing for enjoyment. I think I’ve found my outlet.

This piece marks my 1,100th post.

Over the past eight years, I’ve learned a few things from the experience. Here’s some of what I’ve learned:

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–As much as I know about communications and good writing, I’ve also realized that I know next to nothing. There have been posts that I thought were wonderful that received only so-so feedback. In the same token, there have been pieces that in my mind were mediocre at best, that friends or family members had questions about and really seemed to like. Each time this has happened, I find myself stopping, looking at them incredulously, and saying, “um, why?”

–You just never know what’s going to touch someone.

–The golden rule of writing is definitely true: shorter is better. Use five words, instead of ten. In the words of Strunk and White’s classic writing style guide,  The Elements of Style, make every word count. Unfortunately, I’ve consistently broken this rule, rambling on-and-on like the reader has nothing better to do with their time. My deepest apologies.

–The posts that I’ve enjoyed spending the most time on have also been the ones that have hurt the most. They’ve forced me to open a part of my heart or explain a story or an experience that my normal introverted self would rather keep under cover, hidden from the outside world. The great American sports writer Red Smith is credited with saying: “Writing is easy. You just open a vein and bleed.” I’ll never be as gifted in my phrasing as Smith, but I can certainly understand the pain. When I’ve been fortunate to open a vein of creativity or passion, I’ve been rewarded ten times over with content that I might never have been able to mine or harvest. My hope is that the writing has been for the better too.

–I started the blog because I thought it would get me working on my novel. The novel remains in a rumpled folder on my desk. I still think that I’ll get to it one day — hopefully this year in fact — but so far, I’ve been having too much fun with the blog. No John Grisham rags-to-riches story for me. At least for now.

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–My two favorite posts have next to nothing in common. I wrote the first one more than thirty years ago and set it in a drawer. My other favorite played around in my brain for two weeks. I thought about it every spare second, on my way to work, during my lunchtime run, grocery shopping, everywhere. And then finally when I sat down at my laptop, it came rushing to the surface in a ten-minute flurry of writing. The two pieces:

I love what these two pieces say about courage . . .  and life.

In any event, thanks for reading and checking out my blog. I hope you’ve gotten something by coming to the site.


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56 thoughts on “The lessons I’ve learned from ‘opening a vein’

  1. 1100 posts! Wow! That is quite an accomplishment! I’m glad you write. Your blog is a fun, interesting, educational, emotional read- depending on the day. No matter how the content hits, it doesn’t disappoint. I hope you continue blogging for a very long time. Thanks for the enjoyable words and for opening those veins to let us get a peek at what makes you, you.

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  2. Isn’t it amazing what we see when we look back? Congratulations to you, Brian, for your 1100th post! What an accomplishment…what a body of work. And I’m with you…some of what resonates the most might come from the least thought-out, less deliberate chunks of writing…sometimes the pieces that are from the heart, just as you described, come out in a flourish and they’re gems. Thank you so much for all of your gems! 🥰

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    1. I have another reason that I’ve always tried to write from the heart. I’ve been fortunate to meet some great writers and folks with great stories. I figure if I write from the heart, if I’m open and honest, then that at least gets me in the door and gets the reader’s attention. Ha, ha.

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  3. It’s true that we never know what will touch our readers – and one of the wonderful things about this whole blogging thing.
    I went back to read your two stories. Fire is my biggest fear. To lose everything? And yet, sometimes I think it would be the catalyst to make a change. Not that I ever want to be smacked this way!
    I was wondering about the fact that you still were able to have a relationship with your grandparents – I didn’t realise it was possible once you left. So, a child must officially join the church when they come of age, I guess. I am happy for your mother and you for being able to do so.

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    1. My mother never actually joined the Amish church. Since she never became a formal member, her parents weren’t required by the Bishop and the Church to “shun” her. She had a brother who joined and later left and her parents would skirt the rules to still see him. I’ve written about my grandparents a couple of times. We weren’t close close with them, but they tried to get to know us, which I always thought was cool.

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      1. That’s what I understood.
        And how serendipitous, then! Good for her parents to skirt the rules for your uncle.
        I think the fact they tried counts for a lot.

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      2. They must have unwittingly passed that trait along!
        You never know, Bruce! If it’s how you were brought up, you might have been okay with it. What you don’t know, you don’t miss.

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  4. You have been writing a blog longer than I and I am appreciative of your insight. I enjoyed both of the attached posts and discovered something interesting. I was able to like both of the attached posts, although I am still not able to like your current post. 🤔

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    1. What’s up with that! I feel for you. WordPress can be so confusing. Have they given you any indications why you can’t like posts? One short answer, both of the pieces that I linked to were from the past. Does it have something to do with the old vs. new block editor? Interesting. Hopefully, you’re getting closer to answers. And thank you for reading!!!!!

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  5. You’re so right that when it comes to blogging, there is no predictability. One thing we love writing may not evoke the response we expect while a hurriedly written poem/ post can have lots of interaction.

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  6. Since you give so great blogging advice, may I too, please?
    A blog is a web-site where blog posts are published. The word blog is a contraction of the term Weblog. A post is an individual entry that is published on a blog site, so you don’t write blogs, you write posts on your blog.
    So the farmer and the other one are posts, writings on your blog.

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  7. It’s interesting Brian, I started my blog on blogspot in May of 2015! I moved over to WP about three or four years ago. Our reasons for writing were almost the same and we followed a similar process as we learned what was a hit and what was a miss. I’ve never regretted the decision. It’s given me not only a sense of belonging in the writing community, if I were honest, a form of therapy, and it’s helped me process experiences and find my way in the world. I’m so glad I found your blog, it’s one of my favorites. Hugs, C

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    1. Oh you made my day Cheryl. And oh yes, it’s definitely been therapy for me. I kind of wish I would’ve started earlier. I think I would have been a better father to my kids. At the very least, I know I would’ve been more even-keeled. You’re so right, it helps in processing and better understanding the world . . . and other people. Ha, ha. Love your blog too. I’m such a slow reader, but wanted to tell you too that I love your book. So funny and relatable. That’s my favorite thing about blogging, seeing that there are others out there who feel the same way I do and, yes, I may be a lil crazy, but others have experienced some similar feeling/experiences/events as I’ve had.

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  8. Brian, my Brainy Comic, ‘writing is always evolving.’ Longer posts are some I also try to stray away from as much as possible, because reading and attention spans are obviously shorter now-a-days, but you are writing with passion and you are telling a story that indeed touches so many of us. I too, have experienced the very same things you have. These are ‘your’ lessons, and we learn ours as we go. 👍🏼

    So, I evaluate my messages written and tailor them to what I want to write about and the relevant/personal messages I want to convey. You aren’t here to please others and compromise your voice, but to share moments that many may not be aware even exist. Look honey, we won’t get it right everytime, but when we do, we pat ourselves on the back realizing that your words made a difference! That my friend, is a great accomplishment! Woooooohoooooo!!! 🥳🥂😎💖🥰

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    1. Yes, I worry less about length now, but I’m still cautious of it. Readers have so many options of things to do with their time. I think it’s part of the process. If I’m mindful of the reader, then I’m more likely to fill that hole with content that speaks from the heart and tells a good story. It’s all a scale so to speak. I’m getting there. As long as I’m having fun with the blog, then I’ll keep it up for years to come!!! Ha, ha.

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      1. There you go Brian, I concur with everything you’re saying. When blogging becomes laborious, then maybe it’s time to step away from it for a while. Keep doing what you’re doing my Resident Stand Up Comic! 😂😝🤣 I love your storytelling craftsmanship! ✍🏼😜👍🏼

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  9. I remember those two pieces of yours and loved them, too. I began my blog at the urging of a friend. She was convinced that if I blogged I could sell a book (which has always been my goal.) Yet, here I am still blogging and have gotten to know Cheryl, Vicki and Wynne, who did just that. There’s hope for us yet! I completed a Gotham writing course on plots. It was three weeks online, on my own time. I was able to work on my plot for my novel and get helpful feedback from the instructor. Then I finished week three with a simple plot that was a very painful memoir. I totally opened a vein.

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    1. That’s awesome EA. I can totally relate. I started the blog to get back into writing and hopefully write a book. But, the novel has sat while I “play” on the blog. My goal though is to complete the novel this year – that’s why I went back to three days a week. Sounds like you’re making real progress though. That’s amazing. So happy for you. Keep it up!

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      1. It was LA who suggested Gotham Writers. I liked the idea of a three-week class. Not too big of a commitment, but enough to get me back on track. Also, I know my weak area is plotting. It was very helpful to work it out and get feedback on how I can make the plot better.

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      2. I always tell people who ask about the book that it’s different than anything I know how to do … meaning you’re taught how to write and even outline but not to nth degree necessary for a book. Of course that could just me looking for excuses! 😅😅😅

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      3. I found one book to be very helpful. It’s for screenwriting but applies to novels, too. “Save the Cat.” I used it for a mid-grade novel I wrote and created a large picture board. That was very helpful for me to see the plot visually. I never found a publisher for the novel, because it was swim-team based and considered “too niche.” The children’s section of the Los Angeles Times did publish three stories I took from the manuscript, though.

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      4. This one is an adult novel I started for NaNoWriMo. I wrote 50,000 words in the month of November. My computer began randomly deleting files and I didn’t have a back up of it! So, I wrote it again. And now finally I have a good plot outline with feedback from the instructor. Whew!

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  10. “Opening a vein” is such an apt and powerful imagery of what writing those favourite pieces feel like. Because you’re sharing a part of yourself, healing yourself and healing someone in the process. Almost like transfusing your blood to save someone but with your words!

    I know you’ve written about Strunk before and I’ll say it again, such a seminal and important work and advice for writers.

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    1. I like to think I know what makes good comms, but you just never know. I guess I shouldn’t be all that surprised, I know my own reading habits vary, already this morning I’ve read a piece on the upcoming Super Bowl (American football) as well on beekeeping and cross country hiking. Who knows?!?! Ha ha

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    1. Yes, I like to think I know good communications, but I really never know what will hit home with folks and what will not. If you’re talking about me regarding reciprocation, I try to read as much as I can of other writers – to learn, to be entertained, and for my enjoyment. I do my best, but I’m not always able. Sometimes I’m great at it, other times, life gets in the way. I’ve subscribed once again to your blog. I thought I had signed up previously. I write that to let you know that the WordPress Reader doesn’t list any of your recent posts. I had to click on the site itself to see any of your posts. I’m not sure if it’s something on my end I’m doing wrong or not, but I wanted you to know. Love and hate WordPress. Anyway, thanks for stopping by.

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      1. I was talking about myself lol I completely understand. I try to keep up with everyone as well. Like you said, life tends to get in the way a lot. Thank you for letting me know. I have been having a lot of issues with WordPress lately. I will try and figure it out.

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      2. The Reader search pulled up your site name fine (which can sometimes be a problem for me with other sites) but it said that nothing had been posted. Just strange. Don’t mean to scare you, but wanted you to know. It could be me too. My WordPress seems to act weird sometimes. Anyway, I hope that helps.

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      3. I don’t have any great ideas. I think I would try to chat/email with the Help. It’s been awhile, but I contacted them a year or two ago with a problem I was having and they were helpful. It didn’t cost anything. I just asked my question and they got back to me. Sorry I don’t have a better idea.

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  11. I’m glad I found your blog, Brian, and now I don’t remember how. It was probably through a mutual friend. But your posts are always fun, interesting, and touching, which is what I felt after reading your two older stories. Both are different but very moving. For my 50th birthday (almost 13 years ago, I’m not shy to say), my son nudged me to start a poetry blog. So, I did. But my writing and style has evolved and changed over the years, as well as my focus on what I write about. Then intermittently, I’ll throw some prose and dialogue into the mix, not sure if anyone will like it, but then I’ll be surprised by the great reception. I’ve shared some personal things, and some not so joyful posts, and again, unsure if the not so cheery posts will go over very well. But I’ve been so touched by all the love and compassion. And much of what I’ve written has resonated with others, which is always rewarding. And a lot of any writing that I share is cathartic if it’s from challenging times. Keep writing, my friend. ❤️

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    1. I can relate to your story Lauren. You’ve summed up my goal for the blog perfectly. I might have to steal your words. My goal is always the same: to be fun, interesting, and touching. Oh, I stray occasionally and post about something that bothers me, but I usually come back to those three goals. It helps me deal with the past and see into the future. I started my blog because I wasn’t writing as much in my day job and, when I was writing, I was getting frustrated with content reviews (business folk needing to sign off on my pieces). I felt like I needed another outlet. I still have a goal to publish a novel or even memoir. I’ll get to it. Yes, it’s interesting to see what touches folks. I find if I write with love, compassion and heart, it usually goes well with others. Glad to see that you’ve had a chance to spread your wings and the things you write about. I have an appreciation for poetry now . . . but I’ll probably be sticking with prose. I don’t quite have the confidence in that style of writing. Ha, ha. Anyway, thanks so much for the kind words and, yes, glad to read more of your stuff!

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      1. Feel free to use anything I say, Brian, and I can’t wait to read your novel. I also agree that when we truly write from the heart, that’s when our writing resonates with others. Being real touches souls. I’m sure your poetry is just as wonderful as your prose, but do what is comfortable for you. I’m also grateful that you enjoy my writing, as well as having enjoyed my book. So grateful. 🙏

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