When my kids were young, they all wanted to know who was the favorite child.
They were all smart in how they asked the question. They knew that if they simply came out and asked, my wife and I would say no one. So, they found new says to try to get to the heart of the question: Who got into trouble the least? Who got the newest toys? Who is the best behaved?
Of course, like any good self-respecting parent, my wife and I fended these questions off as quickly as they came up. Pickleball anyone? Tennis? You don’t want to mess with me! I’m a killer on the court.
I haven’t been asked the “favorites” game in a while, but it’s always kind of there. I know the question still exists, because I still tease my oldest brother that he’s my mom’s favorite and we’re far from spring chickens.
Image by Tina Nord on Pexels.
Yes, I swear my mom loves him more than she loves me. Oh in her heart, she really loves me more, but he’s got a sensitive ego and she wouldn’t want to hurt his feelings. Yea, my mom hasn’t actually said that, but she’s let me know, with a wink here, a laugh there, that I’m right.
In reality, my mom does the exact same thing that I tell my own kids: She says my name, like I’m still ten-years-old and in trouble, states that it’s a horrible thing to ask and that she “loves each of my kids equally.”
“Yea, right Mom, we know you have to say that, but I’m really your personal favorite. C’mon on mom, just say it.”
In any event, here’s a post of mine from seven years ago. You may or may not be surprised when I admit who my favorite is. I’ll give you a hint: my favorite has four legs and licks my hands. Let me know how you like my response!
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My kids ask the same thing and I say, “y’all get on my nerves equally”! LOL
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I love that response! They don’t ask much anymore but I have to remember that when they start joking about one getting more than the other. Love it!
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LOL! There asking because they know the love is equal, if it wasn’t then they would definitely know who gets treated the “best”. So tease them a little. LOL
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Love the puppy pickup picture! 😊
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I don’t remember us asking either parent who their favorite child was. As I remember, none of us ever felt like the favorite, so already knowing that we weren’t it, it became a moot point.
As for money spent on each of us, I don’t think we kept track of that either. We got no allowances and we certainly never got a few dollars handed to us “just because“. But I also recall that 95% of the money they did spend on us was for necessities like new clothing. In fact, although Santa wasn’t generous, we didn’t expect him to be. We knew that one package under the tree contained underwear items or socks and one package under the tree contained books. Anything else might have been an age-appropriate toy, maybe too! We also never had stockings hung up to be filled.
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If my parents had given me an allowance, I think I would’ve thought something was wrong, like they had robbed a bank or something. Definitely tougher times.
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I answer, it depends on the day 😉
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Love this. Ask crazy questions, get crazy answers! 🤣🤣🤣😎😎
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Oh my stars….I’m sorry. It’s gonna take me a minute to collect myself so I can read. That photo? It stole my heart. 🥰🥰🥰
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Wish that one was mine! A great shot.
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I don’t think my kids ever asked and I don’t know if they wondered about it at all. I did have someone, another adult with two children, ask me once who I felt closest to of my three. I think she was trying to see if I aligned with her own viewpoints about her children based on choices my kids had made. I have children with very similar values and POV, but they each are unique which makes our relationships unique as well. But love, and measuring it in any way….I love each of them totally without any caveats or degrees. How or why would you really do anything else 🙂
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Yes, love them equally.
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A pickup truck full of puppies has to be everyone’s favorite! I don’t remember my sons ever asking who my favorite was. They were both so different. I loved them each the same, but for different reasons.
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Yes, it’s a great Pexels shot. Tears at the heart.
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There’s nothing like a truckload of puppies to win me over.
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Ha ha, a great shot. It definitely tears at the heart. It’s funny too, took me forever to find the right pic. And then I saw this one and thought it was perfect
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I’ve been spared. I have just the one .😁
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Mine like to tease us by asking. It’s really them teasing the youngest, saying that we’ve gotten less strict. Ha ha
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I agree with them. My older siblings said same about parents. They got less strict… You probably did 😁
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This post from the puppies to the banter to the comments just makes me smile.
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Aww, that’s perfect. That’s exactly the reaction I hopes the post would draw. Thx Crystal!
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Do kids really ask that? I wouldn’t know I was an only one and we have only four-legged kids who are all our favorites. “Favorite white dog”, “Favorite black dog,” “Favorite lazy dog,” and so on. Not sure who started it but I think it could be convenient to blame my husband.
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When my kids want to tease the youngest … they bring it up. They think they had it harder because they were the first two. My kids are pretty close so they like to tease each other.
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Haha on the puppy post. YES! Those furry pals are the best. LOL!
When my kids would bring up the “favorite child question” , I sometimes would simply say that it depended on the day!
My sisters and I all have shirts that say, “I’m Mom’s favorite.” but of course we know who the real favorite is. I mean, I am the “baby” of the family. LOL!
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Yes, it’s a way of teasing the other. All in fun.
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Yup! 😊
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How cute 🥺
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Thank you😎😎😎😎😎
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Your answer is brilliant! 😆🤣
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Hey they’re all too smart for their own good. I’ve gotta keep up with them, keep them on their toes. Ha, ha.
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Oh my gosh Brian, this is a classic! 🐕🐶🐩 Until your children start walking around on all fours, then I think they will definitely get the message! LOL 🤣 You are a riot my friend.
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It’s only fair right! Ha ha …. It doesn’t matter anyway. Nittany may be my favorite, but she still prefers them over me. Ha ha, just a vicious circle.🤣🤣🤣🤣
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OMG, yes, it is a vicious cycle. Bad dog! 🐶😲🐶 LOL 😂😜🤣
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Ah, the joys and the beauty of parenthood unfolded in the guise of an internally complex yet simple question. I believe all children do the same. It is linked to their development as well as ours being parents. Thank you for sharing and I look forward to more of your work.
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Yup, it was asked in fun by my kids. I’m sure there was some whining and complaining involved but generally all in fun … to either give their younger brother or my wife and me a hard time!🤣😎😎😎
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