When I was in high school, I went out one night with some friends and was on my way home. I remember it being a cloudy night and I was driving my mom’s car on a back country road. Another car, probably driven by an older kid, raced past me, well over the 45 mph speed limit. I sped up too. I don’t know how fast I was driving, but I bet I was easily 15 to 20 mph over the speed limit. The next thing I knew a police car with flashing lights was right behind me.

Do the crime, pay the time
I pulled my car over to the side of the road. When were both stopped, the policeman walked up to my car and asked for my drivers license and registration. He asked if I had been racing the other car. I quickly told him no. He frowned and shook his head like he didn’t believe me.
He went back to his car to check out my license. I hit my hand on the the steering wheel. I was so angry, I didn’t have the money for a ticket. I was getting ready to go off to college soon and was trying to save every penny I had.
Plus, I had never been stopped by the police before. I wasn’t sure what I might be facing. I racked my brain trying to figure out something to say to the policeman to help my case, but nothing came. I knew I was at his mercy.
When the police officer came back, he scolded me for my “reckless driving.” I remember him telling me that I could’ve killed someone. I thought for sure a ticket was coming next. I braced myself for the worst.

Doing a kind deed
Instead of pulling out a ticket, the police officer leaned over my window, replaced the gruff scowl on his face with a genuine look of concern and asked how my father was doing.
My father had a heart attack several years earlier and had been in and out of the hospital. When he was well, it seemed like we were constantly fighting. I said he was doing better, but he would be going back into the hospital soon for another heart procedure. I didn’t say much else, but I often wonder if my face gave away my feelings.
He paused for a second, put his hands through whiskers, straightened back up, and told me that he was letting me go. I was shocked. I wasn’t expecting him to say that and blurted out “thank you.” He stopped me though to tell me that he’d “send everything my way and then some” if he caught me speeding again.
He told me one more thing: to tell my father good luck.
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Great story of undeserved kindness.
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Exactly. We all need a little kindness in our lives. Fortunately it taught me an important lesson too. Slow down.
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What a nice story. The only niggling thing is that I think to myself, what if he hadn’t known your father, and what if you’d been a young man who was Black. If only we could always treat each other the way that cop treated you.
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I can’t say. All I know is that we all need a little kindness in our lives. I know it made a difference in mine.
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Hear, hear!
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How lovely that he paused to inquire about your dad. I love those small-town moments…and this one sticks with you, obviously, as a moment of grace. I appreciate Jane’s observation, too. I recognize I have so many unearned privileges in situations like the one you described. Thanks so much, Brian. 💕
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Yes, a lot of things at play in this one little story. It was fun to go back in time for me … even for a short time. I just remember how it affected my own actions days later.
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I can only imagine. Your description was rich and vivid. I could see you pounding the steering wheel, so angry at yourself. Yes, yes.
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You were lucky, Brian! I’ve been let go too years ago. It’s always unnerving to be pulled over.
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Yea, unnerving. I know I couldn’t have afforded a tix at that age.😎😎😎
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I got so choked up at the entirety of “Doing a Kind Deed.” This section and my response relates to an incredible conversation I just had about how evidenced grace, not shame, creates the space for meaningful positive transformation. I’m so touched to see something like that evidenced so poignantly here.
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Grace is a mysterious but amazing thing. I think it’s a concept that we don’t really understand but know it when we see it. I keep coming back to it lately. Love the impact it has on our lives
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Beautiful story
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😎😎😎
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How understanding of the cop. Kindness shown to you must’ve changed your view about people
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My thoughts exactly Sadje … what’s the saying, “a little bit of honey goes a long way.” It has for me anyway!
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That’s what a good deed should be- an inspiration for others.
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I think this illustrates a privilege not everyone has of living in a small town and knowing people more intimately than when you live elsewhere. I also think this officer’s intent all along was to scare the crap out of you and send you on your way. For some people (including you Brian) that was enough. He was a good judge of character in many ways I imagine.
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Yes, I agree, I think it shows the advantages and disadvantages of living in a small town. He let me go … but some of my friends complained that the same guy used to pick on young drivers, even though they had done nothing wrong. Who knows? I suspect the truth is somewhere in the middle.
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Kindness goes a long way, especially when it’s so unexpected. I remember being 16, having my license for a week, and getting stopped. I didn’t get a ticket, and I didn’t speed again for a very long time. Small mercies can make a bigger impact than deserved consequences.
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Oh yes, Belinda, it slowed me down real quick! Sadly as an adult, I’ve got that lead foot back, but the memory does occasionally put me in my place. 😫😫😎😎
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That’s what growing up in a small town was like for me too. Our world needs more of that — concern and care.
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Yes, it was funny, I didn’t know him, but he obviously knew me.
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I got pulled over once in high school for making a “California stop.” It was in rural Washington and he knew my dad and let me.
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Beautiful story, Brian. Moments like this reinforce the goodness and kindness of humanity.
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Yes!!!!
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I got pregnant my freshman year of college and went home during that time for the weekend. I must’ve blocked the memory of how mad my dad was at me. I just remember driving at least 120 mph (digital dashboard wouldn’t read over 120) back to school, bawling for hours, and getting stopped. I was clearly distraught, and the officer let me go. 🫤
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Wow . . . thank goodness for mercy. I don’t have a law enforcement background, but I really do believe that sometimes the mere stop is punishment enough in ensuring that drivers learn their lesson and think before getting behind the wheel again. What a memory Crystal!!
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What a beautiful story well-written, Brian! I love how his concern for your father shone through. Thank goodness for grace! ❤ ❤ ❤
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😎😎😎😎
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Beautiful story! Well narrated 👌
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