Back to work!

My wife and I are different. 

If it wasn’t apparent to me before now, it became clearer this week. Yes, she’s smarter, kinder, and more loving. She’s friendly to everyone she meets. She’s beautiful inside and out. Yea, yea, we know about all of those things, while I check none of those boxes, but I’m actually referring to something altogether different.

First, some background: My wife broke her hand in December when we traveled to Florida for my work. She went to the beach and got some sun, while I sat in boring meetings. Unfortunately, right in the middle of my last meeting of the day, right before what was to be our long romantic weekend together, she sent me an emergency text. She had fallen getting out of the hotel pool and had broken her hand.

She had a brace put on to stabilize her hand and, when we returned home, her doctor determined that she needed emergency surgery to put in a rod and a few screws into her hand. He initially recommended she stay out of work until late January and then extended it to February. 

Get back to work

My wife has been making progress in her OT sessions and will start back to work on Monday, February 27. As I’ve watched my wife, it’s hit me that she’s apples to my oranges. She’s been a sourpuss the past two months, missing her students and coworkers. She’s been frustrated with her progress and can’t wait to get back to work. 

I, on the other hand, would have handled my time off with a much different approach. I would have been kicking back. If I were in her shoes, I’d be milking my broken hand for all its worth. I’d probably still be off. Here’s how the conversation with the doctor would go: “Hey doc,” wink, wink, “How about we extend my li’l break for a few more weeks? Whatcha say doc? We in agreement?” 

Mental health time

Now, I’m not saying I’m a lazy bum, because I’m not, I’m a hard worker. I easily work 40 to 50-plus hours a week, but I would be looking to take advantage of every chance I could get to make the most of my time off. “March Madness is coming up. I’m not a big fan of college basketball but hey doc, the NCAA tournament would do my wonders for my OT progress! All that cheering and maybe even lifting a few pints of beer in the middle of the day, that would have to help my hands and wrist. What do you say?” (For those unfamiliar, March Madness refers to mid-March when college men’s and women’s basketball tournaments are held, culminating in the national championships. The early match-ups start on a Thursday and Friday in the middle of the day.)

How did my wife handle it? She handled it different than me. When the doctor first brought up the idea of staying home, she was trying to find ways around it. If I heard it once, I heard it a thousand of times, how she missed her job, how she missed her kids. Now, I love my coworkers — they’re the best, especially any of them reading this blog piece right now — but I would have no problems saying “hey guys, I’ll be back in four weeks. Catch ya on the flip side!”

Brighter days

At one point, early in her recovery, I had to call her out. After she complained for 20 minutes about missing work, I asked her to write her name on a piece of paper. If she could do that, then I was a worry-wort and an annoying jerk and she was ready to go back to work, whenever she wanted. 

Ha, ha, of course, I caught her, she couldn’t use her hand yet, but that didn’t make her any happier. 

Thank God, we’re past that now. She’s doing much better. Now, if I could just find a way for me to get a four-week vacation out of the deal, then things would be perfect! What about the angst and emotional strain that I’ve suffered for the past two months taking care of her? Sounds legitimate right?

Yea, that’s not working! Back to the grindstone for me too.

Images by Karolina Grabowska via Pexels.

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  1. What a great story to share with a great perspective! I suspect that the differences between you and your wife are similar to males and females in general. Women have the mentality to need to be needed, so after a little time off, we are biting at the bit to go back and prove how necessary we are! Men, who perceive themselves as the bread winner, feel more entitled to a little time off to compensate them for how hard they are always working to bring home the bread. I broke my foot and since I worked as a bartender, I had no choice but to take time off. The first week was great, but I was bored after that. Also, think about that “to-do” list that might await you if you suddenly had time to spend at home!

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    1. Thanks Jane. Great minds think alike. I have a post coming at some point, where I write about my wife being at home and thinking about how we’ll manage in retirement. I think surprisingly will be okay, yes, we have that sense of duty, but I think we’re going to so busy, it won’t hit us as badly as it might. We’ll see.

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  2. Oh boy…today’s the big day then, for her return to work? Hope all goes well! Thanks for the chuckles…and for what my two cents is worth (probably zero cents🤣 ) I bet you couldn’t languish and loaf and watch endless basketball…in your daydream it sounds nice but given what I know about you so far…you’d get so antsy! But…it’s good to dream, right?! 😉😉😉

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    1. Yup, only a couple of texts so far, I’m anxious to hear about her day later tonight. I know she’ll be tired. She didn’t tell me, but I’m pretty sure she was going crazy being stuck at home with me. Here’s how I know: she kept yelling at me about my laugh and how loud it can be. Ha, ha, I would have my office door closed and she would still hear it all the way downstairs. Yea, she’s ready to be back at work!!!!

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      1. It’s funny how hard it can be to work from home with others…doesn’t matter how much space you have…voices/laugher/grimaces/gripes…it all “carries” and wafts around! Hope her day was a good one…first days back in action can be tricky. Give her my best! 😉😊😉

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  3. Oh, so interesting! But I think the fact that you can inhabit both points of view means that you are closer in approaches than you make out to be! Love the shout out to your co-workers! 🙂

    I hope your wife has a great first day back. Yay!!

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  4. Ouch! That’s got to have been painful with your wife breaking her hand. I had a carer many years ago who broke her wrist. She said it was agony, and like your wife, she needed surgery to repair the bones properly.

    As I write this comment, it’s the 28th of February, and I’m wondering how your wife got on her first day back at work? I hope her hand has healed enough to do what she needed to do there.

    I’m not sure which side of the fence I’d sit on if I had to have time off work to recover from an injury. I guess, if I liked my job as much as your wife does, I’d be eager to go back, whereas if I found work a bit of grind sometimes or worked very long hours as you do, I think I’d be inclined to grab a few more days off.

    Strangely, having read this post yesterday, even though I didn’t comment until this morning, I had a nightmare that I’d broken my hand and couldn’t write or type. It was a terrifying thought being as passionate about my writing and being unable to write for a few weeks. I was glad to wake up from that one to realise my hand was intact! Phew! Out of interest, what would you do if you, hopefully never, injured a hand and were unable to write for a time? I’d be climbing the walls.

    Have a wonderful day, Brian. Sorry I’m late with my comment (seems to be the story of my life at the moment!)

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    1. Yes, it went swimmingly. Yup, I’ve been using all the puns I can find. I told her to “break a leg” her first day back. She was a little tired, but glad to be back. I asked if she missed me . . . she didn’t say anything. Ha, ha, that told me all I needed to know. Ha, ha. No, it was definitely a good first day.

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  5. I usually took the first two days of March Madness off as vacation days. That’s how much I enjoy it, and that also was a good deal for my employers who weren’t going to get even five minutes of work out of me both of those Thursday and Friday afternoons for sure! Glad the hand has mended and Day 1 went well…for both of you!

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    1. Thanks Bruce! College basketball is big business now. Heck, it always has been and that takes away some of the enjoyment, but I still love the first two weeks. Love the upsets and herky-jerky nature of the tournament. I’m not sure we’ll have a lot of local teams to root for but it still should be fun.

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