The father in front of me look frazzled and was losing his patience. He had given his son a choice of Matchbox cars to buy for a birthday present for a friend. It was almost time to put the toy on the grocery store cash register. “Which is it going to be Max? The red one or the blue one? We need to make a decision now.”
Poor little Max couldn’t decide. He kept looking back and forth at the two cars. It didn’t help that the cashier was working quickly and the woman front of Max and his father would soon be finishing up her order.
I had stopped at the grocery store to pick up milk and bread and a few other miscellaneous items before heading home and was tired. I have to admit that I wanted little Maxie to get a move on. I didn’t want to spend any more time in the grocery store than necessary, but a small part of me felt bad for him too. I could understand why it would be a challenging decision.
When I looked down at him, I could see the wheels in Max’s head weighing the situation. The dark red one had shiny duel carburetors sticking out of the hood and the blue one had thick rugged wheels that looked like they would tear up the road. Either choice would be a good one.


Decisions, decisions, decisions
Decision-making can be challenging in the best of circumstances. Throw in his heated father losing his patience and the need to make a decision in the here and now and Max was under some pressure. Red? Blue? Which was it going to be?
We make decisions by identifying a need or problem, gathering relevant information, exploring potential options, evaluating their pros and cons, and ultimately choosing the course of action that best aligns with our values and goals.
I’ve been thinking a lot about my own decision making skills since I went to the drugstore this week for cold and cough medicine. The choices in front of me were endless. You can read more about my experience in my story, I’ll take the red one, on the Heart of the Matter.

But I like both of them
My decision making in picking out the best medicine and Max’s decision on which car to choose weren’t all that different. We were both overwhelmed with the choices. I liked the cough medicine in my right hand, but I was frustrated that nothing seemed to be working. I didn’t want to be wrong, so naturally I considered the medicine in my other hand too. Oh, I’m sure I put more thought into my decision. However, I felt the same stress that Max felt.
In the end, I embraced the imperfections. I accepted that there was no right choice, that I would have to make the best choice in the moment. As Max went back and forth, I looked at the two cars to see which I would choose. Globally blue is consistently reported as the most popular color in surveys and studies in the world. That’s the one I would go with.
Right on time, little Max chose the blue one too. You go Max.
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- I’ll take the red one on the Heart of the Matter
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Some decisions are more difficult than others to make. Especially when you are a kid. But learn we must, that our decisions will not always be the right one; and sometimes, we just have to wing it and will get the same result as if we had pondered endlessly.
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Well said Dale. Sometimes we need to just . . . wing it. Ha, ha.
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True ’nuff. We can agonize over something to the point we just don’t see the benefits of either…
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Oh, the pressure! I could feel it from here. Good job, Max!
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Oh definitely a pressure-packed decision. I’m with you Wynne. Good choice Max. Ha, ha.
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Sometimes we are always in doubt if what we chose was good enough.😍
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Oh, I’ve been there. I guess we need to give ourselves a break. Ha, ha.
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Good blog Brian. I’m glad Max went with the blue. 👍For me the most frustrating is the ‘no decision’ just ignore the problem until it magically resolves itself. 🤦
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Great point. And you’re so right, no decision is really a decision. I’ve had too many managers over the years who’ve gone that direction instead of making a choice. Many times it’s worse than making the wrong decision . . . I can at least live with a decision. Ha, ha.
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That’s kind of funny. I was thinking of my last boss. I was always left hanging so I would ultimately make a management decision so I could move on already! 😂
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Oh yes, easier to ask for forgiveness then to wait on someone scared of their own shadow. Ha ha. Good for you!
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it’s so hard, and our energy and thoughts are really spent on the fear of choosing the wrong one rather than picking the right one, it’s hard to be a human at times.
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So well put Beth. It is hard to be a human sometimes. We live in fear instead of oppty. Ugh.
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For some reason, your post reminded me of the early days of speech therapy with T where giving choices to kids helps them build language – “red car… green car…” Boy, we do put our kids on difficult spots from early on, don’t we? 😂
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Oh, wow Ab. We do put our kids on the spot don’t we? If it helps, I did tell the dad that I thought it was great that Max made a decisions and that I wasn’t sure I would’ve been able to make one on the spot like that. Ha, ha. I’m not sure he liked me speaking up. But I felt I needed to cheer Max on. Ha, ha.
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You did great, Brian! 👍
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Well done for posting, good luck!
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⭐️ Liking your posts has been somewhat hit and miss due to Word Press glitches. I want you to know I enjoy reading your posts and support your writing.
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Oh my goodness, I greatly appreciate your kind comments and support. It means a lot. I’ve tended to be all over the place lately with my posts — one minute writing about what inspires us, another minute, complaining about the state of current politics. I hope readers get where my crazy brain is headed.
I hate to hear that you’re having problems liking my posts. I have no idea what is up with that. (One thing I should point out. To limit spam, I have my site settings set up so that I see comments first before they get posted on my site. I have to manually accept them. So, I see that you made this comment twice. I just deleted the second one. I apologize for that, but I’ve found that it helps keep spam to a minimum.) I have no idea what’s going on though with the liking.
I have to check with WP. I’m finding it hard to see other blog sites too. I’m subscribed to your site, but I feel like I haven’t seen some of your recent posts. Something’s got to be up with them. Thank you so much though for letting me know!!!!
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⭐️ Word Press can be frustrating, but I appreciate the outlet to write. I have decided to live with its quirks and hope eventually they will be resolved.
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Yes, it seems to change a lot. Hopefully the next change will bring improvements.
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I can so relate to this, sometimes it’s a purchase, but often it is deciding what to do with my time. Great post, I could actually feel the angst of the little boy. Hugs, C
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I felt bad for him. I’m not sure I could have made a quick decision like that when I was his age. Ha, ha. Thanks for stopping by Cheryl.
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Awww, that’s a great story. Thank you for making me smile this morning. ^_^
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I felt bad for the little boy. Decisions, decisions. Ha, ha.
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Exactly. Hehe! ^_^
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I’ve owned both red and blue cars in real life…and have liked them both. Which just goes to show I’d have just as much trouble making a decision as Max!
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You and me both Mark. Poor kid. I tried to loosen the dad up so that he would give his son a little bit of a break. He was still kind of frustrated . . . but I thought it was pretty amazing that the kid made his decision so quickly. Better than I would’ve done.
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What a good story and message, Brian! I would’ve chosen blue too. 😁
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Choices, choices, choices. Poor kid. I felt for him. I thought for sure the Dad was going to give in and say let’s buy both. Ha, ha.
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I used to have an awful time making decisions, and still do occasionally. I attended a talk by a fellow called Charlie Tremendous Jones which changed my life. He said there are no right or wrong decisions. You make a decision and then you make it right! The red one or the blue one would have been the right one. Once he decided, then the blue one was the right one!
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“…there are no right or wrong decisions. You make a decision and then you make it right!”
Love that advice. It’s so true! So on point. Thanks Darlene.
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