The world can be a crazy place. Sometimes it helps to step back and list a few of the things you’re grateful for. I’m making it a habit each week to list three blessings. Here’s what I’m grateful for this week, April 20 – 26.
What I’m grateful for:
—You can do it! Our Lhasa Apsa – Bichon Frise dog moved onto Doggy Heaven in February. It took some effort to watch this video, but it still made me grateful. It’s a 30-second video of various dogs reacting to being called a “good girl” or “good boy.” It lifts the spirit and makes me grateful that we had Nittany for 15 wonderful years. I’m also reminded that once in a while we all need a kind comment and some positive reinforcement.
If no one has told you today, you’re doing great. Let’s repeat that: You’re doing doing great. Hang in there. Keep on, keeping on.
—Letting go. I’ve learned over the years that each stage in life has its ups and its downs. I hated being told what to do as a kid, but I loved learning and the fun of “play.” Likewise in my 20s, I loved venturing out in the world.
You never know when something is going to be the last time you experience it, but I’ve been fortunate to at least see certain mileposts coming. I love this line from the movie, The Life of Pi. “I suppose in the end, the whole of life becomes an act of letting go, but what always hurts the most is not taking a moment to say goodbye.” I’m grateful for seeing the mileposts coming and making peace with the goodbyes.
—Now you see me, now you don’t. Our son came home last weekend. And was off again. Oh, he came home for a concert. He saw some rapper who I know nothing about and can’t even remember his name. And 24 hours later, he was off again. It was fun though to see him. It perfectly describes the life of a parent with adult kids. We’ll see him again in a few weeks when he’s back home for the summer. I can’t wait for our summer vacation at the beach and we get to chill and talk.

What gave me a smile?
Hmm, I found something the other day that makes sense, but still made me laugh.
I read that April is National Stress Awareness Day. Health professionals use the month to raise awareness stress on mental and physical health and to promote strategies for managing stress. They suggest seeking professional help, practicing relaxation techniques and engaging in physical activity.
Of course, the smart-ass in me couldn’t help but think about what else happens in April? Hello McFly. First there’s April 15, Tax Day in the United States, marking the deadline for filing federal income tax returns. Yes, that might have something to do with my own high stress levels.
Also I thought about important April Anniversaries. Hmm, there are a few. And they all seem to be rather stressful. The Revolutionary War started, the Titanic sunk, the Chernobyl disaster occurred, William Shakespeare died, and Writer T.S. Eliot thought April was such a winner that in his poem “The Waste Land,” he called April the Cruelest Month. Oh, the irony!
But here’s the positive side of things. May is right around the corner!

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Gratitude, letting go, adult “kids”, and reasons to smile~ a beautiful life, my friend. I’m sorry for the loss of your precious dog. Thank you for always encouraging us in your articles! 🥰
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Ya gotta find reasons to smile. Life is hard enough. Gotta be grateful. Thanks for your comment. I very much appreciate it.
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There is always so much to be thankful for, like seeing an adult child even if for a short time. That scene from the Life of Pi always gets to me. Enjoy the weekend.
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Oh yes, we saw our son only a little bit, but it was great. Just what I needed. We’re fortunate. He’ll be home in a few weeks. I can’t wait. Thanks Darlene. Always good to hear from you.
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Life of Pi was a beautiful movie and book and the ending was most inspired and heartbreaking. It is so much about the mileposts in life and learning to appreciate them and to let them go.
Glad you had your visit with your son!
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I had never seen the movie. I need to read the book now. Yes, it was fun to talk a little music with my son and see him and his friends. They grow up fast!!! Ha, ha.
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You’re doing great, Brian! Thank you for the smile and encouragement. I love the wisdom of saying good-bye as we let things go. I guess that includes stress. 🙂 So good!
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Hello, goodbye. They grow up too fast Wynne. Ha, ha. And yes, ya gotta smile and find encouragement in the little things. I think that’s why I try to encourage others. I know how hard it can be sometimes. Thanks so much for your kind comment.
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I’m sorry for the loss of your dog. 🌈
Thanks for sharing The dog smiles after hearing “good boy” – loved it! When my fur boys wake up from their nap, I will see if their whole expression changes after saying good boy!
It’s important to remember our gratitude every day and every week!!! Thanks
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It’s funny how one little comment can change their expressions. I guess not all that surprising. It works on me too. Ha, ha.
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Good Girl works better on me!!!
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il always enjoy your 3 things posts. and I heard an interview on npr yesterday with 2 artists in la who have been doing a project with pay phones where they invite people to make calls to say goodbye. these are working phones which would dial a number that the artists had set up and they would record the calls (with permission from the callers) and they can say goodbye to their old selves, to someone who passed away who they never had the chance to say goodbye to, to someone they were mad at they they never had closure with, people they were mad at but never told them why, etc. and they said they were so many beautiful poignant moments and calls, and it took a load off of people, and they walked away refreshed and lighter.
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Oh thanks Beth, I’m glad you like the idea behind my three things. I started it as a whim, but it’s turned into a lot of fun for me. And thank you so much for mentioning The Goodbye Line! I love this story, I have to read and listen more about this. Love that people felt relief!!!! Cool story. 🎉🎉🎉
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First time reader. I love this three things, and would like to employ it myself! And your previous post about community on the blogosphere was a positive find for me. I am just getting started here, and while I have had some great interactions, I am still not there yet. Seeing what you have built here is very awesome and inspiring!
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Oh, thank you so much Jessica for your kind comments. The three things started out as a game with myself. Could I find three things to be grateful for each week? Now it’s my favorite blog each week to write. I thought it would be a quick list. Instead, I really have to watch I don’t write a book. Love your blog. Love how you wrote so honestly about your father and mother-in-law. I’ll definitely be reading more. I started my blog ten years or so because I wasn’t writing much anymore for myself and wanted to get back into it. Most of my posts tend to be slice of life, things that touch me in my life. I’ve had a few political posts this year, but I tend to avoid those. It’s definitely been a creative outlet for me. It’s been fun to “open up a vein and see where the blog will take me.” Anyway, thanks for stopping by and good luck with your own site!!! 😎😎😎😎😎😎
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Thank you so, so much for checking it out, and your compliments! Looking forward to reading and sharing more.
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I love all 3, Brian! Reading about Nittany (hugs) and watching the video got me a bit teary-eyed, but all is good. We’re both going through the same thing and only a month apart. Ahh, the wisdom of letting go and the joy of your son’s visit though brief. All so relatable bringing such gratitude. Our son who lives in CO. will be here a week from today for a 3-week visit. So I know how you feel. 🙂 Thanks for this, Brian, and have a wonderful Sunday.
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Our middle son keeps joking that when he comes home he’s going to surprise my wife with a new dog. He’s joking. I don’t think we’re ready for that, but the laughs are appreciated. And our youngest’s trip home it was quick, but it was great to see him and touch base on everything. I love the conversations with him. They’re always so much fun. Happy for you that your son will be home in a week. That’s awesome. Especially for three weeks!!!! Enjoy the time. Thanks for the kind comments and have a wonderful week!
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We’re not ready for another dog either, Brian. Still grieving and missing Copper, but also feeling less sad while reliving good memories. Hey, quick visits are great! Our son is taking one week off, but then he works remotely so has more flexibility with travel. Thanks, and wishing you the same!
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Those puppies are precious! Thank you for sharing. 😀
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Aren’t they Michele. Proves that we all need an encouraging word some time. Ha. ha.
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I think you perfectly summarise the recipe to live happily and serenely here🤓
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Oh, thank you so much for your kind comment. When I was young, my mother would always say “ya gotta take one day at a time.” I never liked her advice much because the impatient me never liked waiting. I’m thinking now that she may have been onto something. Ha. ha. Thanks for stopping by Ortensia!! 😎😎😎
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How you’ve made connections with these three pieces. Loving something, missing it, being grateful for it. Or, in the case of tax day, being grateful that it’s over.
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Yes, I’m very much grateful taxes are done for another year. Ugh. Thanks Dave for seeing the connections. Ha. ha.
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Another positive April thing: I was born!
(OK, probably more positive to me than most people. But throw me a bone if you don’t mind!)
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Oh, it’s a positive Mark. Happy Birthday by the way. I’m all for getting rid of all the stress that happens in April like taxes due and instead making it all about celebrating Mark. What do you think about that. A national holiday. Let’s celebrate Mark day! Ha, ha.
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I’d be down with that!
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A few things: (1) I’m sorry to hear about your dog, but I think I may have already sent condolences; (2) That video is super cute; and (3) I’ve been listening to a podcast where the person is interviewing a Shaolin monk and that’s one of the things he says people have to learn how to do—let go, because ultimately, that’s what we have to do anyway; there’s no way around it.
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I love the monk’s advice Kathy. So very interesting. Hard sometimes to do in practice, but so wise. And thanks for the kind thoughts about Nittany. She was a great pup. We miss her, but it was still fun watching the video. It shows how important positive messages are. Ha. ha. Thanks for reading.
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