When I moved to a new job in corporate communications early in my career, I stuck my head into my boss’ door one day to let him know that I had completed the piece I was working on — an update on an important project. I expected him to say that he would get to it in a little while, but he shocked me when he told me to pull up a chair and that we would review the piece together. Um, now? Really?
I was a very inexperienced writer and he caught me off-guard. I never expected that he would want to read it in front of me, but that’s exactly what he was suggesting.
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Immediate feedback
It was a complicated piece. I remember being anxious about whether I had gotten it right. I wasn’t sure what to expect. I cringed as he started to touch one sentence but then let out a silent cheer when he made a minor change or two, turning my so-so line into something that jumped off the page. The rest of the session was much like that. I would squirm in my seat and then come away excited about whatever change he had just made.
I’m asking my blog readers today to do the same. I need your help.
Raising the bar
One of the best ways to get better as a writer is to write and get direct feedback from your readers. This isn’t just me talking. Author Anne Lamont wrote in her classic book Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life, “Almost all good writing begins with terrible first efforts. You need to start somewhere.”
Science fiction author Octavia Butler offers similar advice, “You don’t start out writing good stuff. You start out writing crap and thinking it’s good stuff, and then gradually you get better at it. That’s why I say one of the most valuable traits is persistence.”
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So, what do you think?
This is me trying to be more “persistent.” I’m looking for real feedback on my writing. I want to know what reader’s think. I’m not searching for compliments or praise, I want to know what you think of my blog, the site, and the stories I feature. Here’s what I’m talking about:
- What about my blog works? Would you recommend it to someone else?
- I currently post Monday through Friday with a smaller post of three or four quotes on Saturday. No post on Sunday. I’m trying to figure out if I should keep a similar schedule next year or post less frequently. What would you like to see?
- Do you read my posts to completion? Do you get bored?
- How does my blog connect with you? How does it not?
- I tend to lump my writing into a few buckets, what topical areas would you like to see more of in the future? What should I write about next?
- Parenting and family stories.
- Stories from my past.
- Life with Brian, things I come across in my day and things that annoy me.
- Quotes that inspire me.
- Fictional stories.
- Do my headlines work? I would ask the same about my lede/intros and endings?
If you care to share your thoughts, I’ll be mighty grateful. If not, thank you all the same.
Finally, thank you so much for your comments and feedback on my blog posts. It’s a big reason why I keep blogging, I love the back and forth with readers, I love the community.
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I like your blog because you write as if you’re speaking to a friend. You’re also very positive and honest. You’re personable and it shows in your writing.
I really don’t have constructive feedback, so I’m sorry I’m not of more help. Maybe if I was criticizing an article, I’d have more to say. Blogs should be more free/loose in my humble opinion.
I look forward to your blogs. I’d just say, keep being you! 🙂
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“Speaking to a friend.” That’s a great compliment. Thank you Maryanne. It’s funny, because I do see blogging as just that. A step or two above texting, but still the same general idea. A chance to say, “hey look what happened to me today” or “did you see what’s happening two streets up from me.” A conversation. You bring up a great point too about blogs being free and loose. I know I put way too much focus on my writing in my blog. The great thing about a blog, you can fix your mistakes or make changes at any time. I probably need to back off a little, but it’s been neat to see how my writing has expanded and I’ve gone in directions I never would have expected. In any event, thank you so much for reading and for the great feedback. Much appreciated. 😎😎😎😀😀😀😀
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Many, many, many steps above texting!
It’s like an interactive diary. And like a radio show because you never know who is listening/reading.
And, yes, you can fix your mistakes or make a particular blog private.
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Yes, many, many, many steps above texting. I’m with you there. In fact, I need to maybe add a few more “manys.” Ha, ha. I was trying to convey the relationship or dialogue between writer and reader.
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Your blog posts are insightful and engaging🙌
Totally agree with the feedback part,there’s always scope for improvement and learning✨️
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Thank you so much. I’m glad it’s engaging. As for asking for feedback, I just know that my writing has been helped tremendously along the way by other writers and editors. For instance, I know my ledes are better thanks to a great friend I worked with years ago. I got to reading her work and she always had these smart, pithy introductions that pulled you into her work. Her approach has definitely impacted my own work.
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I’m not great about giving feedback on others’ writings because I feel I’m such an amateur
but I read all the time and so I have a sense of what I like. I’m so impressed that you’re asking for feedback. I enjoy your stories. I only follow a handful of blogs and even still, I feel like if one posts most days, I don’t have time to read all of them so it’s sometimes hit or miss if I read one. With your posts, I almost always read them to the very end. I never find them too long. I particularly love the ones about your mother coming from an Amish home and how that has impacted your life. I love hearing about your history and stories from your life. You’re clearly a good writer, with an organized mind. Not sure that’s helpful but is what popped into my mind.
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Oh, you’re not an amateur Donna. Love your posts. I’m not sure I’m ready for Goat Therapy yet, but it did look fun. Ha, ha. You bring up a great point about frequency. As a reader, it can be hard to keep up. We all have busy lives. As for topics, yes, I love my mom’s story too. I worry a little bit about “milking it” too much, but I love the challenges she overcame. As for my history, I suspect I write about them so much because it’s the stories from my childhood that float through my head. I can go back to them in my mind so readily. It obviously comes back then in my writing. Thanks so much for the feedback. It’s really helpful. Thank you so much!!!!
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I want to read on ‘Life with Brian’
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Oh, you might not want to admit this Emaistace. By saying you like the “life with Brian” stories you’re admitting that you get the crazy things that run through my brain sometimes. Ha, ha, I’m just kidding. I really appreciate the feedback. I’ve written about this a couple of times. I’m always amazed that those “life” stories often end up being the ones where I get a ton of hits or people tell me they’ve had the same experience or thoughts. It’s funny how that works. Anyway, thank you so much for the feedback and for your readership. I appreciate it!!!!!! 😀😀😀😀
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😂😂😂. I might just admit it.
I love relatable tales. I love your stories
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Thank you, they’re some of my favorites too. 😀😀😀😀
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I enjoy your posts very much, Brian. They speak to me as a reader. They’re a very accessible length and always have substance, even with your touch of humor. I don’t think you need to publish every day to keep or extend your readership, so I’d only keep rigidly to your schedule if coming up with a new topic everyday is what you want to do.
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Oh, thank you Jane. This is great. Yes, I put a lot of pressure to have a piece ready to go everyday I’m scheduled to post (even though I’m the only one who really keeps track of the schedule.)
I go back and forth about how to handle the future. On one hand, I look forward to blogging every day. It’s made me a stronger writer and excites me and keeps me going. At the same time, I wonder if I let up a bit, if I wouldn’t have more time to work on my novel or other writing projects. I really don’t have a lot of time for that right now. Oh the decisions. In any event, thank you for the feedback. I very much appreciate this. 😀😀😀😀
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When you’re really ready to dig in deep in your novel you should feel very comfortable easing up in your blog with no loss of readers. You could do one new post and one update on your writing project each week. You’ll figure it out.
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I’ll get there. I’ll finish my novel one day very soon. I’m certain of it. I’m positive about it. Thank you so much Jane.
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Oh my goodness. Where to begin? I love that you’re asking for feedback. I’ll mull further, but my very first thought was to offer praise (which I know you said you weren’t seeking) but my input is that I love your content and however you make the “when/where/how” decisions…I’ll be ready and happy to read. I think the decisions about frequency are so hard – and variable. Never am I bored…always am I delighted. I’ll leave the rest to you. Just don’t stop. 😉😎😉
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Rule breaker. Ha, ha, ha. Oh, thank you for the praise. I really do appreciate it. Yes, I’m trying to figure out frequency. I love that I get a chance to say something essentially every day. There’s no question though, that It can be challenging. I try to stay a week ahead with light editing the day or so before publishing, which means I’m often multitasking in the evening, spending a little time with my wife streaming whatever show we’re watching, with my laptop, open up on my lap, putting the finishing touches on a blog. But, it’s still a ton of fun. All at the sametime, I really do want to start making bigger progress on my novel. Oh, the choices. I’ll figure it out. Thank you though for the feedback. Very much appreciate it. 😎😎😎😎😀😀
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It’s been a little while since I’ve been following your blog. I know that I like to read your content as it’s always engaging. I will give you detailed feedback after a while
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Thank you Sadje. I’m grateful to hear that it’s engaging. You post frequently too. You know the challenges and the rewards of maintaining and keeping up with a blog. It means a lot that readers like you spend a little time on my content. Thank you. 😀😀😀
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You’re most welcome! Yes I do follow a lot of blogs and when the content is both engaging and interesting, it’s a pleasure to read.
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Yup, that’s a good reminder too. People have lots of options of things to do with their time. It needs to be something engaging and interesting or else they can always do something else. Thank you.
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You’re welcome ☺️
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Brian, I have just one question. Why do you write?
My perspective and experience are that as long as you stay true to your why, then you’ll always have things to write about and people who will read and appreciate what you write.
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🙂 🙂 🙂 Great suggestion. I know I had a piece titled Why I write. I can’t find it right now, but I’ve touched on this topic frequently over the years. It’s very much to “open a vein” and find out what I believe and who I am. As Erin just wrote, I write to cheer up others, inspire, and provide some humor. But you offer a great reminder. Thank you so much. This piece is one that touches too on why I write. https://writingfromtheheartwithbrian.com/2016/06/22/how-i-carved-out-my-own-place-in-the-world/
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Alright, I’ll bite! First off, I love reading your blog–you’re a great storyteller and the posts are always engaging, start-to-finish, and the headlines catch my interest. Your writing always conveys your thoughtfulness, introspection, and appreciation for the good things in life. They’re either a pick-me-up, inspiration, or a dash of humor to start my day. I know you’re looking for some constructive criticism, but I can’t think of a thing I’d have you change. Though I will say that my favorite stories are those of your relationship with your wife–it’s beautiful what a great team you make!
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Thank you for the kind comments. I really appreciate your comment: “They’re either a pick-me-up, inspiration, or a dash of humor to start my day.” It gets to the heart of why I asked for feedback. Yes, it’s a pretty straightforward comment, but I’m not sure I would’ve explained my writing so succinctly like that. I’m sure I would have rambled on about meaning and purpose, but that’s exactly what I try to do with my blog. My new writing mission. Thank you Erin! And yes, stories with my wife are my favorite too. I try to not go overboard, but I usually have lots of them. The challenge is that most time the ending is the same: She’s wiser and smarter and saves my butt! Ha, ha, I joke, but it’s true. Thank you for the feedback. Very much appreciate it! Have a wonderful rest of your week. 🙂 🙂 🙂
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I hope you have a great rest of your week, as well! 🙂 🙂 🙂
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This is a great list. I wish I had thought of it first. Many of your thoughts are mine and I think that’s why I enjoy reading your posts. Your stories are varied and interesting. You relate true events, which everyone can relate to. You show your inner thoughts, your faith and your compassion throughout your work. Adding humor is always appealing to me. I love to laugh. I think people enjoy true stories that they can apply to their own situations. Keep up the great work.
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Aww, thank you so much. You’re so right about true events. I know I’m pulled in by stories. Yea, I have a lot of thoughts and opinions, etc., but I think you’re right, people like to read stories and humor that they can relate to. Thank you so much. I really appreciate you taking the time to read and offer your feedback. Love it. Thank you.
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I will always be drawn to real life posts and bloggers Brian- which is what you are- unless you have fooled all of us and you are really Brian the Bot churning out AI inspired words left and right 😉 LOL! I appreciate your honesty when you write, sharing what is real in your life. I am a reader who likes to come to their own conclusions after being challenged to think about what I’ve read. You strike a nice balance in that regard, never being one to pronounce your opinion only without leaving room for others to return their own thoughts.
Time/frequency is certainly a consideration and only you know how much is the right amount for you. That is the only thing you should base that decision on when the time comes. You are not bound by any rules or expectations, at least not from me 🙂
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You got me Deb. I’m really an AI bot. Ha, ha, it would have to be one crazy bot to match my writing. I find what you write about conclusions interesting. As a kid I loved stories that end with “. . . and the morale of the story is xxxx.” I still love them, but I find that so often my pieces could have a bunch of different interpretations. It hits me too that blogging brings us together with folks thousands of miles away with different experiences and maybe even values. They may have a different opinion than me. I try to be sensitive to that. Thank you so much for this feedback and for your readership. I really appreciate it.
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I remember my first week at a PR firm. We placed our work in an inbox for the VP to review. He was fond of martini lunches. Once he came back from lunch and tossed my story on my desk with a “This sucks!” written across the top in red ink. Thanks for the reminder! 😂 I would say keep on doing what you do. Your posts are entertaining, relatable and engaging. I posted M-F for several years. I switched recently to MWF. It is a better schedule for me. I can sit down and write when something hits me. Strangely, engagement has gone up since I cut down the days.
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Oh my goodness, what a horrible boss! Ugh. I had a few VPs like that too. I get having high expectations and demanding strong work, but a martini lunch inspired “this sucks?” Give me a break, that doesn’t help anyone get better. Just another reason why my experience with the VP/Principal stuck out so much. Thanks for the feedback. Your input on the M-F schedule is interesting too. I have a sneaky suspicion too that engagement would increase. I’m considering it. Funny thing . . . I was planning to write M-W-F this year, but I threw in an extra Tuesday blog the first two weeks of January and I was hooked. I was off and running. ha. ha.
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That VP was a character. Very strange. I am enjoying the lighter blogging schedule. I don’t feel pressured to write and I can schedule things in advance around other things in my life. FYI, I gave you credit in yesterday’s post for my dog story.
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Oh, that’s exactly why I’m thinking of slowing down the number of days. I’m generally keeping up with the schedule fine. I’m writing shorter so that’s probably good. But I haven’t been working on my novel and I fall behind in my reading of other blogs. I completely missed your Angus post. I’m so sorry. What a beautiful story by the way. What a great dog and friend.
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Thank you for the kind words about Angus. Yes, I thought cutting down days would give me more time for my novel, but I seem to find other things to fill my time!
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I don’t know, Brian. I can’t remember who said it, but the expression, “If you want to learn how to build a house, build a house” is also true about writing. Style is an emergent property of the process and it’s difficult to steer. Constructive criticism is well and good, but it still boils down to opinion. Unfortunately there is no Big Book O’ Writing that we can all refer to, so it really hinges on whose opinion you value.
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Yes, I agree, there’s lots of quotes from great writers about the only way to really learn the craft is to write. From my own journalism and corporate communications experience, I agree with that, but I still think it’s helpful sometimes to “say hey reader, what’s working for you, what’s a pile of rubbish?” But overall, it’s still the writer’s responsibility to keep writing and improving. Thanks so much for the feedback and, if you ever write that Big Book O’ Writing . . . I’ll be first in line to buy it. Ha, ha.
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Brain my dear friend, somehow I smell something comedic rising from this research…”The Many Facets of Brian.” 😜 First of all you were rather brave to detail this query for such indepth feedback, but honey, I admire your courage. 🙏🏽 I do enjoy your storytelling posts because people need to read something relatable and not so standardized like we once learned eons ago. When I go back to read some of the stuff I began posting, I want to go back and delete it all, but I refrain from doing so because they are lessons I need to revisit from time to time. I need to see how much I have grown and developed.
As always, a great thought-provoking piece my friend. 🤗💖😘✨😍
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Don’t delete anything. First your stuff is always great. You’re just being hard on yourself and second, it shows growth!!! As far as my post, thank you so much for the feedback. I do prefer the storytelling posts too. My biggest concern with them is that I resort to them too much. Good to know they still make sense. You know my sarcasm too. I find it comes out more in those types of pieces. Ha ha. Anyway, thank you so much for feedback and encouragement. Much appreciated!!!!😎😎😎
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You are so very welcome my dear Brian. Was that enough of a critique and answer to your questions??? LOL 🤣😱😂 Sending you lots of hugs my friend. 😍💖🤗 Don’t change your style, because that is your niche. Everyone is unique and that’s why you need not question your content or approach. It’s obviously working! 😜
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Thank you. Yup, you’re so right. I can’t see making changes to my style, but always looking to be a better writer . . . I might look into changing my frequency next year. We’ll see about that last question. No real decisions yet. If I post less, I definitely want to make progress on my novel.
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There you go Brian. I concur with you. The blogging is definitely an asset, but I tried to commit to 5 days a week, down from 7 days a week at one time. But I think I too am going to have to rethink that schedule as I reprioritize closing out this year. Continue to forge full steam ahead my friend! 🥰💖🤗
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🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂
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I enjoy the personal stories on your blog, especially the ones that connect with your interesting childhood and the stories of the resilience of your parents. And your sense of humour is always appreciated. I also like your Saturday inspiration quotes!
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Thank you Ab, this is very helpful. The Saturday post has really surprised me. I wasn’t planning to post on Saturdays, but I’ve been pleasantly surprised with the reaction I’ve gotten. And I don’t see the humor or sarcasm going anywhere, it’s so entrenched in my personality. Thank you for the feedback!!!! 🙂 🙂
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I would like the blog to appear as black font on white background foe easier reading.
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Yes, thank you Alessandra. My design skills are a bit lacking, but I have it on my to do’s to look to play around with my current WordPress theme to see what changes I can customize or possibly move to a new layout/color theme. Thanks for the great feedback. Accessibility and color is a really big issue. Thank you.
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After I wrote this I noticed that from the Jetpack app all blogs look white on black. 🙄. I have mine black on white but one must browse on the web not the app. Maybe yours is the same?
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I tend to read most of the blogs I follow and search for within the WordPress Reader (Jetpack App). I rarely go directly to anyone’s website, unless I’m really searching and want to read a few of one person’s blogs. I do have to remind myself sometimes to go out to the actual blog to get a better sense of the writer’s personality, etc.
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I like your down-home style of writing, your speak from the heart, truthful, tell-it-like it-is style. I like willingness to share your foibles, insecurities, and embarrassments. I like reading about your overcomings, your learnings, your triumphs over your fears. Your blogs are honesty, relatable and uplifting. I’d rather read a tale of personal growth than a work of fiction—but that’s just me. I tend to wrestle with self-discipline, so creating a regular writing schedule is—well, a discipline! During Covid I wrote a blog every day for three months and shocked the beekeepers out of myself. Now I’m lucky to crank out one or two a month. Whatever works, I say. It’s all a matter of personal preference—and personal growth—at least for me.
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You’re so right about discipline. Sometimes writing everyday is a breeze, other weeks I feel like I’m lucky to get through the week, like I’m just scraping by for content. As for my style, yes, I love how you’ve described it. I do try to approach each blog with honesty and optimism. And if you can’t share your flaws and have a laugh . . . even a laugh about yourself, then why even have a blog. It has to be something you’re excited about doing. Thanks so much Julia, lots of wisdom in your feedback!!!
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Hi Brian,
I haven’t followed you that long, but I will say that your posts (whatever the topic) are always entertaining and engaging. As I’ve mentioned before, I love your humor, so don’t let go of that. 🙂 When it comes to posting each day, my only problem with following bloggers who blog every day is that I can’t always keep up with all of their posts. I’ve been blogging for over a decade now with several changes and blog breaks in between. I used to post once a week, and now I even post more frequently. But I don’t keep a schedule; I just post when inspiration comes, or if I’m promoting a friend’s book or one of mine and the timing works out that posting becomes frequent. Sometimes, I feel bad when I’m doing a post each day because I don’t expect my followers to keep up. Anyway, the bottom line is you do what you’re comfortable with and your readers will follow. Regarding your content and writing, it has all been wonderful! 😁
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Oh, thank you so much Lauren. It’s good to hear that my humor and sarcasm work. I do occasionally worry about it, I never want it to come across as mean-spirited. As far as frequency, that’s one of my concerns too, posting too much for folks to keep up. Like you mentioned, I’m playing around with some ideas in my head for next year that will work for me. Thanks so much for the kind words and the advice!!!!
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Hi again, Brian,
It’s a late Friday afternoon and I’m tired, so I apologize for using the words “post” or “posting” a zillion times! Yikes! 🙃
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Oh you’re fine, Lauren. Great advice lots of “posts” or not posts. Ha, ha.
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I love the curiosity and openness behind this, especially with where I’m at in my reread of Brown’s Daring Greatly (specifically, on the importance of fostering feedback cultures)! While I’ll think on this, my gut take now is: The curiosity you evidence here shows up across your posts, which makes them all eminently readable (and relatable), IMO.
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Aww, thank you Deborah. Yes, I hope the curiosity and desire to grow does show up in my writing. I really do believe in having a growth mindset and constantly learning and growing as a writer. And you’re right, I do think that helps my writing become much more relatable to others. Thank you!!!
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Wonderful piece of blog post here Brian. I have to agree with your opinion about writing and then getting feedback from the readers because at the end of the day, they are the target audience. It is actually a good thing that your boss wants to read the project you are working on in front of you and review it together, that way you will know whether you did well or not.
Also, I too prefer to have readers tell me about my blog posts so that I can work on the missing pieces💯🙏
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Yup, always trying to improve, get better.
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Practice makes perfect🙏😀
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