I look out one window and see hurricane-like rain and wind pelting the glass. I look skeptically at a tree in the yard; if this keeps up, I give it low odds of surviving the night. “Oh boy, we’re definitely in for it.” Then I step into another room, look out the window, and see blazing sunshine. It’s just a typical summer day in the neighborhood.
Really. I’m not making this up. Same house, two different weather patterns outside.
Two contradictory things can be true at the same time.

A person can be terrible for society—robbing, cheating, and causing chaos like Bonnie and Clyde on a multi-state tirade—while still being kind and loyal to others.
A parent can be completely exhausted and desperate for an hour of quiet, while loving their children beyond measure.
And you can be deeply grieving the loss of a loved one while at the very same time experiencing moments of genuine joy and gratitude for life.
Two contradictory things can be true at the same time.

A leader can be incredibly tough and rigid, demanding absolute perfection, while caring deeply about the personal well-being of his or her team.
You can accept and love yourself exactly as you are—imperfections, writing errors, and human flaws included—while actively working every day to grow and improve.
A friend jokes that he wants complete independence, yet he secretly craves deep connection.
Life is full of paradoxes like that. It’s a challenge, but it’s what makes us human.
Two contradictory things can be true at the same time.
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Love this my friend. Your messages find me at precisely the right time – today in the middle of chaos of what is truly a perfectly beautiful day.
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Chaos. A Beautiful Day. More and more I come to the conclusion that we’ve gotta forget about the craziness around us, find our calm, and forget the rest. Ha, ha.
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Absolutely! It’s funny that you’re describing the weather in your area because the same thing happens here. So many times, I’ve witnessed the contrast between severe weather on one side of our metro area and sunny skies on the other. It also reminds me of when I was growing up and would see the rain band coming toward me, while I tried to outrun the rain. Wonderful paradoxes indeed.
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I swear I thought I was losing my mind Edward. Like something out of a funhouse mirror. Of course, the storm moved in fast and took care of things. Ha, ha.
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Oh, I bet. Nature is really something.
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It also what makes us unique. You are very much so. Your posts reflect a connection between generations.
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I don’t know . . . I just know that life is a contradiction and we gotta be flexible. If not, life will run us over. Thanks Kathy!
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I so agree. And the 2 contradictory things phenomenon gets lost in political debates.
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Oh yes, two contradictory thoughts . . . that’s not allowed in today’s political climate. You gotta like one side or the other, that’s it. Ha, ha.
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Unfortunately, our leader didn’t get that memo. Sigh.
But you’re right. If I may break out a fancy phrase, these examples are sort of along the lines of quantum superposition, which you’re familiar with if you’ have’ve ever heard of Schrödinger’s cat and the whole both alive and dead paradox.
OK, enough science-ing for me. I need to go back into my writing lane and stay there.
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Oh are you sure you’re not a fancy scientist. You sure sound like one to me!
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OMG. My keyboard must have stuttered!
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I blame lots of things on the keyboard. Most are true. Ha, ha.
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We’re all so full of contradiction. Great post!
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Life’s a contradiction. Ha, ha, it really is.
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Texas is famous for the micro – climates. Rain in the front sunshine in the back.
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It really was crazy John. I looked out back and immediately thought of the Wizard of Oz tornado. I walked to the front of our house, which is not all that big, and it looked like it perfectly sunny. Crazy time. Ha, ha.
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Ha ha ha
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I totally felt this when you described the weather. We can be driving around the island and it’s raining and then all of a sudden it’s like we cross an invisible line and it is just gone and the sun is out. Crazy.
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At least you get the sun Tracie. In PA, we get all four seasons in the same morning. Ha, ha.
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Yeah, but I miss Fall 🍂🍁 a little and snow flurries on a Christmas Eve…not enough to move back, but you know what I mean.
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This makes me think of when I fantasized about being off for the summer during my teaching career, and yet since my wife worked year round, I felt guilty after a couple of days of rest. Most years I had a summer painting business, which was a nice change for a couple of months but got old quickly.
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I have to bring this up with my wife, Pete. I need to know if she feels guilty for having the summer off. Ha, ha, she likes to give me a hard time for waking her up when she’s off and I have to get up for work. She likes to tease me that I’m especially loud during the summer. I don’t think I am . . . but maybe I’ve got some repressed jealousy. Ha, ha. Thanks Pete for your comment.
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Looking out one window to a storm and another to sunshine is such a vivid picture for how life works! The reminder that we can love ourselves as we are while still working to grow is something I think everyone needs to hear. Wonderful, grounded perspective as always, Brian!
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Thanks for calling it grounded perspective. Let’s be honest though . . . I’m a little crazy here too. Ha, ha, but hey I’m growing too. Or something like that. 🙂
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Aren’t we all a little crazy? 😄 Honestly, recognizing the craziness while still pushing to grow is as grounded as it gets! Keeping that sense of humor along the way makes the whole journey so much better. Wishing you a wonderful, peaceful, and joyful week ahead, Brian!
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Life and humans are full of contradictions and those juxtapositions of opposites are both fascinating and puzzling. I’d say this is often true for family members too!
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Oh family members are definitely full of contradictions. Ha, ha, see this all the time. Ha, ha.
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Learning to sit with the discomfort of two opposite truths coexisting is easily one of the hardest parts of being human. Great post Brian!
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yes, it really is part of being human, isn’t it. Thanks so much Mary.
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Great thoughts, I must say! A human nature.
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Oh thank you so much Hazel. Human nature is crazy, right. It keeps us on our toes.
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Definitely! You’re welcome, Brian.
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Yes, two things can be true at the same time. So many people miss that and I struggle with it myself especially in family dynamics (and with Christmas party invitations already being sent out).
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Oh my goodness, yes it definitely touches family dynamics. I didn’t write it with family dynamics in mind, but it definitely touches it. Ha, ha
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So true Brian. It makes life interesting and challenging. Holding two opposing emotions is something we have to give ourselves permission to do as in grief and joy. Love your message here. Hugs, C
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Permission!!! Well said Cheryl. Kind of Living in the Gap, right? Thanks so much!!!
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I think one of the quieter signs of maturity is learning not to force every experience into either/or. We can carry sorrow and gratitude, weakness and courage, questions and faith in the same heart without one making the other less genuine. Even Scripture speaks of being “sorrowful, yet alway rejoicing” (2 Corinthians 6:10). Some truths are not contradictions that need to be resolved; they are tensions we learn to hold. Life rarely gives us only one window to look through, and wisdom may be recognizing that the storm outside one does not make the sunshine outside the other any less real.
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I like how you wrote that. Life is a paradox. It really is, challenging and joyful all at the same time. The better I get that idea the better I understand life. Thanks so much for your comment.
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True!
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I hope so. Thank you!!!
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You’re welcome!
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