This was back in the days before I had a laptop or PC. On a piece of paper in the back of my Comm 360 notebook, I listed out all my short-term bills. I had included my spring semester tuition and what I still owed in room and board.
On a second sheet, I wrote down the amount of money I had taken out in federal and private student loans. The sheet of paper had a coffee stain and was smudged but I dutifully used it to keep track each semester on where I stood.
The number on the page made my eyes hurt. I worked two jobs to pay for college and it still wasn’t enough. During the day, I worked in the Graduate Admissions office sending out mass mailings, filing papers, things like that. And at night, I worked several hours in an office supply store. My jobs mostly covered incidental expenses. I called it my beer money, but I rarely used it for beer. I needed it to keep my head above water.
My father suffered a major heart attack when I was still in elementary school. My mom broke her back working at a sewing factory. My parents helped me when they could, but they needed to worry about themselves.

Keep paddling
When I started school, I knew I was going it alone. When I thought about skipping class or simply slacking off, I would pull out that notebook. I would look at the loan numbers staring back at me. They scared the bejesus out of me. I worried about how I was ever going to pay my loans off, but they also kept me serious about school.
When I got really scared, I ran the numbers to figure out how long it would take me to catch up. How much would I make once I got a job out of school?
Like a duck in the water with its legs paddling like crazy, I was going to need to paddle like crazy to make my dreams come true. I was taking the harder route. I knew that I could have let college pass me by, but I also knew that if I stayed in my small community, it would have been the death knell for me. There’s no way to predict what would’ve happened to me, but most of the options weren’t good.

Them’s fighting words
The quickest way to get into a fight with someone in recent years has been to bring up student loan forgiveness. President Biden tried to put a dent into the problem and many folks took umbrage with the move.
Unlike many people, I didn’t have a lot of problems with Biden’s plan. I don’t fault students for wanting a better life. My problem was that I never felt his plan hit the real problem. I’ve always felt that the bigger fault lies with the institutions, the ones charging exorbitant prices, and how they have lost track of their mission. They charge an arm and a leg. Historically, college tuition and fees have risen at a faster rate than inflation. From 2000-2022, average tuition and fees rose by 60%, from $9,204 to $14,688 a year.
There’s no question that the cost of higher education has gotten out of control. In the words of Commander Tom “Stinger” Jardian, the cigar chomping commanding officer in Top Gun who reams out Tom Cruise’s Maverick, “Son, your ego is writing checks your body can’t cash.”
Yes, colleges have be writing checks they can’t keep and they keep passing those outrageous costs onto students. The average cost of college tuition and fees for the 2024-2025 academic year is roughly $11,610 for in-state students at public four-year institutions and $30,780 for out-of-state students, according to the College Board. Private colleges average around $43,350 annually.
The breaking point is coming soon. The number of American higher education institutions decreased by 2% from 2022–2023 to 2023–2024. Many experts think the number of failing schools will increase significantly over the next ten years.

A house of cards
Some day it will start to impact the larger schools. I have mixed feeling on this. I hate to see schools close, but I know from personal experience that parents and children can’t take much more.
I’m just thankful that I graduated when I did. Unfortunately in the day and age that we live in now, my little cheat sheet wouldn’t work today. I would be priced out of college. And frankly, I’m not sure what I would’ve done.
I would’ve been up a creek without a paddle.
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Very powerful post, Brian. First of all, bravo for having the determination and fortitude to see yourself through college. And, secondly, you are 100% correct about how those college costs are obscenely out of control. Costs that high simply don’t compute, they’re not justifiable.
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The cost is just obscene. Throw in the fact that many of those same schools have endowments in the billions, pay their profs and administrators next to nothing and it really is criminal. Just sad.
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I’m not so sure about their administrators being paid next to nothing, but salaries definitely don’t explain such high fees.
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The administrator things varies. I’ve seen where salaries at a few large schools are outlandish and then I’ve seen where salaries are low. Like anything, it varies.
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I agree with this, Brian and can identify with how you worked your way through school. I did as well, when I was a divorced single mother in my 20s, just beginning school, and it took me a really long time and most of my sleep hours but it was determined to find a better life for my girls.
motivation is a great driver and I applaud yours and the fact that you never gave up. as you said, it would be even more challenging now to do so, and I am a fan of the loan forgiveness for those in debt, and also for calling out universities to make them affordable again so that everyone can have access who is so inclined and so they do not have to go into debt.
baby steps are helping but we need major reform in this area. fortunately in michigan, we have a governor who supports this and we now have 2 years of free community college for all, as a beginning leading to a 4 year university, or as a stand alone to learn, train, and become a part of the work force. the university of michigan now has an initiative for free classes based on your family’s income, not based on pell grant, but still a long way to go. great post and brought that all back for me.
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Oh, I love what you wrote Beth. Good for you for going back and showing your girls what a great role model looks like. When I finally paid off my loans, I know it was a very happy day in our household. Love that Mich. is making community college affordable. As you say, there’s still a long way to go, but love that smart people are trying to chip away at the mountain!!!!
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Agree and I only paid my grad school loans off 5 years ago when I sold my house and bought a condo – celebration all around!
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Now that’s a reason to celebrate. Ha, ha. 😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎
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Brian. I did the same budget exercise while taking an MBA class at JHU. I got up walked out and unenrolled. Fast forward to my son. He attended Johnson & Wales when the feds told schools they had to offer financial aid to everyone the tuition jumped big time. I blame the school and the feds for this. Granted my son got a good degree (he is a chef and nutritionist). But the student loans are a killer. I have half his loans
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Yes, the student loans really are a killer. They never seem to go down. They’re less about helping kids through school and more about being an anchor that keeps students down forever. Ugh.
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Absolutely
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A very thoughtful post. Good on you for how hard you worked to get through college. The costs of higher education are tremendous. I was lucky enough to get some scholarships, which helped, but it was still rough as well. And then I have friends who are probably still paying off all their loans. It’s definitely rough.
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I just think that the cost of college and loans has gotten out of hand. Back in my day, it was somewhat possible to work and still go to school and cover your bills. Nowadays, it really is out of the possibility for many people. Just very sad.
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It is very sad. I keep hoping that something will change to help students, but now it just seems to be getting even harder for them.
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There is so much truth in the post, Brian. I vaguely knew this but it’s amazing to see the numbers. Let’s make education affordable for everyone. It will help on so many levels! ❤
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The costs have just gotten out of control. Just sad to see.
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I agree with your post. College costs are out of control. Also, it’s so easy for students to get loans (or so I’m told) and they don’t really have a concept of how difficult they will be to pay off. What if you have a chronic illness and struggle to get work? Any number of things can happen.
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My kids have student loans and they’re well aware of the bill that comes due, but yes, I think it’s a shock for many students. They know their college charges an arm and a leg, but it’s hard for them to quantify what it will cost them.
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At one point I worked 5 jobs at once to pay my way through college, and was lucky not to have to take out a student loan…it is such a racket because as you point out, costs have skyrocketed with no consideration to the financial realities of students…it’s a system that needs to be corrected because it’s just not financially viable for the majority of young people to pay for college and the burden of a longterm debt is horrible
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You’ve nailed it John. That burden of long-term debt is an anchor. They’ll be paying it back for years. I know for me . . . it was a huge thing when I finally had my loans paid. I can’t imagine now where the costs are crazy. REally kind of sad.
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Brian my friend, I feel your pain from where you were and where you are now. This is so true: “Many experts think the number of failing schools will increase significantly over the next ten years.” Well, now that the Department of Education is being gutted like a pig, who knows what tomorrow brings! 😝
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I’m at a loss Kym. How is moving the Dept of Ed to the states going to help anything? It’s really sad. It’s being promoted as this big thing, but I can’t see it helping anything. REally kind of sad.
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Sad Brian and very, very backwards! Talk about flushing knowledge and education down the toilet! 🚽🧻🚽 UGH! 😖
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Provocative thoughts.
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I’m not sure how clear my post was. It’s just something that’s bugged me: how college costs have skyrocketed in recent years. Thanks for reading.
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Bugs me too. We are still paying if our child’s undergraduate tuition!@
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Very thought provoking post, Brian. Higher education has become shockingly expensive and like you, I am thankful to have graduated at a time when the tuition was still reasonable. We put aside savings for our son’s future, but I can’t fathom what it will cost when it comes to his time. Time to buy a lotto ticket.
I agree that the institutions themselves need to take a hard look at the tuition fees and see if there are ways to make higher ed more affordable.
Good for you for working your way to support yourself. It was hard but made it so much more satisfying in the end!
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I think that’s my issue . . . how exorbitant the cost has become. It’s not reasonable anymore. Thanks Ab.
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I’m just glad we got our kids through college to earn their BA. But I’ve heard that nowadays a master’s is even more needed. Not sure if that’s correct or not, Brian. Great and informative post…which makes me think of the Dept. of Education. I admire you for your determination and accomplishment.
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Yea, we’re on our last child. He’s on his way. College isn’t for everyone … I just feel bad for the kids that don’t have the same opportunities/options.
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I do too, Brian…
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I couldn’t agree more, I wouldn’t have been able to go to college today, with the prices of tuition and books. When I attended the local state college it was $100 a semester (I’m sure I’m aging myself) and $100 for books, I lived at home and commuted and even then I always had a part time job so I could help pay. It’s so different today. I’m really impressed with you and all you did to attend college and get your degree. Bravo Brian. Hugs, C
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So well said Cheryl. That’s what I was trying to get across. I’m not sure if I did. It’s so expensive that it’s become too much for the average kid. It’s so different today. My college story and your on your son’s new home have some similarities. I’m not sure how it is in Portugal, but I think some of the same things are happening to young homeowners trying to buy a house for the first time. It’s priced out of many people’s ranges. Kudos to you for helping your son with his house. Wow. I’m still in awe of that. My back still hurts and I haven’t done a thing. Ha, ha.
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I got very lucky and attended a California state college back when California state colleges were very affordable. That certainly isn’t the case anymore. I applaud any effort at student loan forgiveness!
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Yea, I know loan forgiveness is a touchy thing. I just think . . . someone’s gotta follow the money. Someone is getting filthy rich off of college kids. Back in the day . . . you could kind of juggle it and work for it. Now Fuhgeddaboudit!!!
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Great insights and one I ponder paying for every al cent of everything I’ve done, making it, losing it and over again. Not once twice but thrice. The on going question of when the other shoe will drop again but somehow I trust I can survive now. The kids? Now that’s a worry but they’re doing better than us so there’s that! 💓
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Yes, when is the other shoe going to drop. I hear ya! Thanks for commenting Cindy. We live in a crazy world. Ha, ha.
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I’ll say we do!!! 🥹yikes!
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Well said, and your points are spot on. It’s the colleges who are creating the problem of out-of-control tuition. Hey, I earn less that a kid out of college, and I’ve been teaching for over 40 years. Do I deserve the exorbitant pay that higher education teachers are getting? No.
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Oh I would argue you do Jennie! Teachers should make the six figure salaries that athletes make. At least in my dream world. Ha ha.
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Ah, the athlete comparison. You make a good point!
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