Keeping it real: Life is short

John thought he was safe.

He survived two big layoffs at his company. He went to work each day the past twelve months expecting the worst. However, the days turned into a string of months. He started to think that the worst was over, and he started to actually breath again. After one busy week, he even started planning a get-away for his wife and him for their sixteenth wedding anniversary.

So, it was a surprise to him when he went to work in June and found a surprise invitation to meet with his boss. His knew immediately that something was wrong and, sure enough, he was right. His company laid off close to 20% of its workforce and his position was eliminated.

Nothing is ever promised

John and I worked together in another life and he’s picking up the pieces. He had his resume ready just in case and he’ll have a severance package to count on for a few months, but he knows that it could be a long slow process. He saw myself and others that were let go by the same company pick up the pieces and move onto something else. He’s hoping for the best.

Now the sad thing is that the company is actually doing quite well, but not well enough according to the private equity firm that serves as the controlling shareholder and is reportedly planning to take the company public and would pocket an armored truck worth of money in the process.

Like I mentioned, I’ve been in John’s shoes. I’ve been laid off twice, but the shock is still a big one. It’s a reminder that you never know what life has in store, how the ball might bounce this way or that. To use another cliché, it reminds us that life is short.

Here today, gone tomorrow

In the same vein, I read last week about a favorite personal finance columnist of mine, Jonathan Clements, (link to New York Times story, access may be required) who has been diagnosed with cancer and has had his retirement years cut back from decades to months.

Clements wrote in his personal finance blog Humble Dollar a few week ago, “Suddenly, I am the oddball. I’m a 61-year-old with perhaps as little as a year to live, and that means my financial life today doesn’t look like that of anybody I know.”

He then documented how his shortened lifespan has drastically changed his perspective and financial calculus. I’ve followed Clements’ writing from the Wall Street Journal to now his blog, but it’s still scary when life has a way of stepping in. Cancer? I’m just a frequent reader of his and have never actually met him, and I still found myself saying, “Where’d that come from?”

The cold hard facts

I thought about both stories yesterday — both are kind of sobering. I tried to find a hopeful message in the stories, a way to end on a positive note. I never like to end on a downer, but maybe that is the bright spot. Yes, yes, we can never take life for granted. It comes hard and fast and we need to take our best swing.

Here’s to giving our best shot.


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42 thoughts on “Keeping it real: Life is short

  1. It’s a shock. My husband got laid off once! He called home saying,”Don’t spend a penny!”. He got another job right away that helped hold off disaster, but it was inadequate. It was more than a year before he got the job he wanted. It was a huge adjustment and concern!

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    1. Yes, I feel fortunate that I had a solid base, but like you mentioned, it took a year or two before I felt I was back on track. I took the losses too personally too — which is crazy, but it’s something I had to watch the second time around. Shock is a good way to describe it.

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  2. Life is short and we can’t take it with us. Our neighbour just died after a 2-month battle with Cancer. We are best to live each day as if it were our last.

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  3. Brian my friend, your stories are all too familiar. I look at some people who are less deserving (in my opinion) and see them not be impacted by these subjects you are discussing. I do feel however, they will contend with something even more challenging down the road. But I think you ended your message perfectly, to give life our best shot. Each day I am coming to this realization and reminded that just when you think you have been dealt a low blow, someone else has it worse. We continue to be grateful, take things one day at a time, and live our best life possible. Thanks for this stark reminder because everything is not always coming up roses! We gotta deal with a few thorns every now and then. 🥰💖🤗

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    1. Yea, I’m with you. I gotta believe they’ll get there’s one day. In the meantime, all I can do, is give my best through the highs and the lows. I hated to start the week with such a downer post . . . but like you write, we gotta take it one day at a time. Thanks for the support!!! 😎😎😎😎😎

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  4. This post brought back memories. I was laid off a couple times in my career. It was a very trying time that required faith and trust in God. Looking back I can see God’s hand as doors closed and others opened. He provided as I eventually found a new job. In one instance, the clients I had were upset that I was laid off and hired me as a contractor until I found a permanent job with another company.

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    1. Yes, I’ve been lucky. I worked for 20 some years without any layoffs and then had two in a five year period. I’m fine now, but it’s definitely a shock. I’ve gotten smarter too with making sure that I don’t put too much personal stake into my job. I give me all, but I remind myself that I’m more than just a job. And that’s great about how your client ended up hiring you. Interesting. Shows that often times companies miss the point, while others get it completely. Ha, ha. 😎😎😎😎

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  5. Speaking from experience and a long life, I can attest to the fact that going through this sort of thing is anything but easy. Yet, there is always a reason for what happens in our lives. One door closes and another one opens and usually it’s for the best. That doesn’t mean a thing to the person going through such a tragedy, but when you can look back at a long life of disappointments, you will also see a pattern of blessings that came from each of those difficult times.

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  6. I’m sorry for your friend and for the writer. What a perspective knowing you had a year left to live would bring. When I worked in PR for a large real estate developer, there was a downturn in the economy. The CEO had a company photo on his wall and would put a black dot on the faces of employees laid off.

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  7. Could not agree more. I have been with 3 companies that eliminated 30% or more of the teams I was in. I have been fortunate that opportunities popped up so I moved on without blinking an eye. I keep one thing near and dear: we are not guaranteed a tomorrow. Cemeteries are full of indispensable people and after watching my son drop dead at age 27 from an AVM rupture – I consider myself lucky and try to live that way.

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    1. Wow, great advice Danny. Sorry to hear about your son. Yes, yes, I consider myself fortunate too. From where I started to where I’ve come, I’m a lucky guy. Best to see the many ways we’re grateful and live day by day. Thanks so much 😎😎😎😎😎😎

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  8. Oh, the baseball analogy is so good. Curve balls, fast balls, and the swing of continuing to try! Wishing my best to your friend, Brian! And to Jonathan too, of course.

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    1. It’s the bottom of the ninth, one man on and the home team is down to it’s final out. The pitcher winds, he throws. It’s a deep long drive, it could be, it might be, it’s outta here, home-run. The crowd is on it’s feet, they’re going crazy. Isn’t that what we all hope for Wynne. Ha, ha.

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  9. Thank you for sharing from your heart. These are sober reminders of how fast life can change. I’ve been in similar situations. Perspectives change. That’s an understatement!
    Here’s to giving our best shot! Beautiful wisdom and words, Brian! Thank you!

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    1. Yes to giving our best shot. Thanks to for mentioning “sharing from the heart.” That’s what I try to do. I hated that this piece was kind of a bummer, but I reminded myself that sometimes sad stuff is good stuff too. Ha, ha. 😎😎😎

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      1. You’re welcome Yes, the name of your site is obvious through your words. I love it! If you know my story, you understand how I can relate so much. It’s the bitter mixed with the sweet that shapes who I am–and I hope I’m more wise for it (or I try!). Thank you for sharing it all!

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  10. Oh my God Brian, I am so touched by this blog post. As a young man who is 25 years, I have seen how sad and short life is, the way people die is shocking and terrifying me😭😭💔💔

    Reading about the man who got laid off, I remembered my Father who used to work at a hotel and was laid off or was it a guest house, I don’t really remember. Noe that he is old aged 67 and above, it just shows how life changes and the time flies. I feel sorry for those who lost their jobs or been laid off, I know how it feels to be unemployed, I am into that pool of seeking a job and it is a slow long process😭🙏

    Lastly, I wish you all the best Brian and who knows if we will be alive before the year ends. Only God knows😭

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