Learning what matters most: My first brush with death

Two years ago, my youngest son was hanging out with a couple of his friends and called us on his cellphone to let us know that he was driving on a busy road near our home, and got hit by another car. When he came home, he was apologetic about the scratch on the car. 

Of course, I cared about none of that. He was all that mattered and, fortunately, he was shaken, but generally fine. 

I’ve thought about that accident a lot over the past two years when I think about what’s important to my family and me. One minute I was taking care of bills and cleaning up the house, the next minute, I was focused completely on my son. The bills were now a distant memory. I’ve had other lessons on what matters most in life over the years, including when I was just a small child and learned that Shep, our family dog, had been hit by a passing car and died.

The experience taught me that we can’t avoid sadness and pain, but focus on the love and good things in life. You can read more about that story titled My first brush with death, on a new blog that was launched this week.

Two great writers and friends of mine, Wynne Leon and Victoria Atkinson, have launched a new site called The Heart of the Matter, which will focus on personal stories, and diverse perspectives on what really matters (and what doesn’t matter), and they’ve asked me to be a regular weekly contributor. (Oh, they must be crazy!)

Check out my first post. I’d really like to know what you think of it. I encourage you to follow the site too. There’s a spot in the margin to follow/subscribe. And oh yea, because I’ve gotten the question, I want to be clear: I’m not going anywhere, I’ll continue my regular blogging schedule here as well. You can’t get rid of me that easily.

As always, thank you for reading!

Image by Eko Pramono via Pixabay.

19 thoughts on “Learning what matters most: My first brush with death

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  1. I think they would have been crazy NOT to ask you. 😊 I can tell I’m going to learn a lot about writing from you!
    Also, this was a great intro to your post on HoTM – and so thankful your son is and was okay!

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    1. What a nice thing to say, you’ve made my day! I’m always here Kendra if you need a second read or input. I find it helpful to sometimes ask others for a 2nd read before posting, just to make sure I’m saying what I think I’m saying!!! Ha, ha. Yes, my son was fine. I probably took a few years off my life, worrying and being anxious, but he was fine. Se la vie!

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      1. Thank goodness about your son! And thank YOU for the offer, Brian – I really appreciate that. I often hope against hope that I’m getting across what I’m trying to, so I may just take you up on that. 😊

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    1. My post today is a bit too wordy to serve as a great link to the main story about Shep dying — I didn’t want to take any focus away from that story — but I was hoping the two stories worked well together. Good to know they dovetailed nicely. Thanks for having me Wynne.

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  2. It’s been many years now, but my husband and I once arrived at the scene of an accident in a very remote part of our province just as a young man had ended upside down in a ditch and was worming his way – thankfully with nothing more than cuts and bruises – from under the car. My kids were little and I had plenty of clean facecloths for his cuts AND a blanket. All he was worried about was what his Mom would say when she saw the car. And I was crying a little as I told him she wouldn’t care a BIT about the car, as long as he was okay. Glad your son wasn’t badly hurt, Brian. That must have been so scary for all of you…💕💕💕

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    1. Oh thank you Patti for asking about my son, he was fine. Just shook up a bit. I’m the one who took years off my life worrying. I can’t help but think of the Confucious quote: “May you live in interesting times!” I like interesting times, but not that interesting. Ha, ha. Wow, what an accident to come across. The young man was lucky to have you guys come his way . . . both to check on him physically, but also calm his emotional concerns. So nice of you!

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      1. I do understand… I worry myself sick when my grown kids come to visit – especially in the winter months! And we are blessed to live in a province where EVERYONE stops for a car that has broken down. It would be unheard of, here, to do anything else. I miss many things about living in a city but I don’t miss how impersonal people were about car accidents 😕

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    1. Thanks for stopping by Charles. You are so right about death. Whether it’s family members, friends, acquaintances, or even my first dog, I find that death and grieving helps me learn about what matters most in life. (Not our toys or things, but real relationships.) I find too that it forces me to drop the curtain and shroud that we all put up and be true and authentic. When I write about death, my writing is much more heartfelt and down-to-earth. I’ve just read a couple of pieces on your blog . . . wow, awesome stuff. I’ll be sure to check out more. Thanks so much for offering a bit of feedback and stopping by both my blog and the Heart of the Matter blog. Very much appreciated. Have a great weekend.


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